Both myself and my sister had very different relationships with our Dad in his lifetime. He died from complications following a stroke he had had 3 weeks earlier in 2015. If things were down to me, I would’ve bought a skip and thrown Dad’s stuff into it, except for his rings, watch and wallet. I refrained from doing so though. However, my sister does not want anything to be moved, simply keeping the house as Dad would’ve known it. The main issue, is the fact our Mum (Dad’s one and only wife whom he cared for during his last 10yrs), has a degenerative disease. The house has been adapted for her needs, but we are unable to have a ceiling track hoist installed in mum’s bedroom until we empty the loft OR the wardrobe’s. These wardrobe’s, cupboards and the loft are full to the brim with Dad’s belongings. When I informed my sister that the lift csand it had deteriony had told we would have to clear out the house in order mum gets the track hoist in, my sister reacted ‘no! We can’t do that! That’s not possible, Dad didn’t have that much stuff!’.
When Mum was having a through floor lift installed and we had empty the floor space including a dressing table, my sister reacted with horror that we had got rid of our parents old double bed and carpet ( The double bed was unsuitable for Mums needs and loans a hospital style bed and matress . As for the carpet, when myself and another relative took it up, the floor was covered in sand it had deteriorated that much since it was laid in the 1970s).
My sister even complained to me because I’d got a brand new set of fence panels! She believed that all it took was to slot them back in place, but they were crumbling and had been damaged by storm Doris.
It seems my sister has two issues 1) not wanting to accept Mum needs the equipment and 2) wanting to keep the house as Dad knew it.
Anyone any ideas?