Hi everyone. I lost my husband mark two months ago aged 64. I’m 54. We were married for 26 happy years and had three children. Why is life so unfair? Mark had a failed marriage previously and I had suffered in volatile relationships. We met and seem to know each other inside out instantly. He was my best friend and soulmate. I cannot seem to sort his clothes and sleep with his t shirt he last wore daily. I cry constantly from anger upset despair etc. he was the love of my life and I feel so totally lost. Why did he have to leave me? He passed from sepsis. I feel worried he died not knowing how much I loved him and it eats me up every day. The constant dull ache is awful.
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Hi I feel your pain, I lost my husband last week, I am still trying to process it, I put a post on just now expected but unexpected. We met late in life but absolutely adored each other. I totally understand your holding on to him in any way you can I haven’t moved a single thing in the house even though every room I walk in his things are there and bringing back memories I am even having conversations with him in my mind as I walk around the house because I know what his answers would be.
Try to focus on the love you shared and the good times that you had
That is what I am trying to do even though it is a roller coaster of emotions, sending hugs
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It is a bit hard to move on after two months really but looking back that is what I had no choice but to do as I was washed along.
Stumbling and getting up again.
Somehow needs must. It is not two years but I am asking same question but I know I have a long way to go.
I didn’t want to have to go in the journey. Getting used to it. Well I am finding myself still doing the garden but it looks a bit different. I am shopping when I need to instead of when I used to think I had to. I am facing some of my demons. I dither and stumble along.
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@TRACE060570 After 9 months, I haven’t moved any of N’s things… I’ve tried a few times, but couldn’t in the end.
Having his stuff around is a comfort, so it’ll stay until I’m ready.
There’s no timescales, you’ll know when it’s right.
The most important thing right now, is to take care of yourself 
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband Kev suddenly 3 months ago. He was 61, I’m 60 and we had so many plans for the future. I am starting to accept that he has gone but I still think “ I must tell kev” or “ kev would like this” I know he will be a part of me and I see him daily in my grown up children and grandchildren. I feel that I owe it to him to do the things we had planned and take him with me in my heart, hoping you have some better days and get through the challenging ones xx
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