18 months ago my mum was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Treatment was chemo - surgery - chemo. Sadly she passed on 26/4 this year. In the middle of this I was diagnosed with breast cancer following a routine mammogram in September 2023. Treatment plan surgery - radiotherapy. I got the all clear on 12/4, mum passed away 2 weeks later. How can I celebrate getting the good news when I’ve lost mum to it? I haven’t processed any of it if I’m honest, I don’t even know where to start
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So sorry for the loss of your mum.
What a terrible time you have been having. Grief is a horrible place to be in. As cliché as it sounds time does help. It may be too soon to think about it but as you survived cancer you could live the life for the two of you. Maybe visit places that your mum loved in her memory, for you and for her 
Sending you love and hugs xx
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Be kind to yourself, you have said it time to process is what you need . Allow yours elf to accept help from others and be looked after if you can.
Rest eat sleep don’t look for answers straight away. Take care
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She’s in a better place - trust me. I’ve been there . My dad died on September 11th recent one. So can kinda understand. Sucks though. Chin up 
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Hi Kate 7,
Just read your post and it’s heartbreaking.
I had something similar. I was diagnosed with colon cancer in June 2018 and had the surgery and treatments. Then in Nov mum was diagnosed with lung cancer and I had to support her though major duty and following treatments. It was horrendous. Each week there were so many different appointments for both of us. She was 85 at the time so I had to go with her to every appointment and I was ill myself so it was a terrible time.
Mum passed away 4 yrs later so that was 28 mths ago from something totally different. And I passed my 5 yrs monitoring a few months afterwards. I desperately wanted to tell her but couldn’t. We both wanted so much to teach the five year milestone and I just wanted her here to celebrate but I just couldn’t without her.
It must have been so emotional telling your mum you had the all clear and I bet she was thrilled for you. It was lovely she knew before she passed.
Celebrate in your own time and when it feels right.
You have been through so much. For me looking back on it all I feel I went through cancer with the best person in the world. Someone who really understood what I was going through
and I could never have got through it without her.
As Kathy said live your life for the both of you. That’s what my mum said about her mum who died on childbirth so I know she would want me to go do the same.
Visit new places so the familiar places don’t bring on the tears. Say to yourself "ok mum I am going … today for us. "
Sending love,
Deborah x
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Thank you. I’ve just been on holiday for 2 weeks and caught up with sleep and also had time to start to process things. I found a beautiful place my mum would have loved. I spent time there, talking to her, remembering the good times and had a good cry. She’ll always be with me as your mum will always be with you
That’s do lovely Kate7.
Keep going
Love Deborah x