How do you turn life around

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I started posting again after some months. Im posting for insperation and suppoft really. 21st August will be 2 years since i lost mum. Im still in the same flat i shared with mum since 1982. I do rent the property from a private housing association, if i owned i would have sold up and left the city i was born in. But sadly i dont have that option on the table. I dont have a lot of reasons to stay in my city, more or less 0 of a family and if i died tomorrow i doubt they would care much. But moving isnt easy, but it might give me a boost and maybe a new life ? I dont like my current life at the moment and i dont class myself as living but existing only. Im really interested in peoples thoughts on life and how you move forward with life when you kind of feel trapped in a existance you not truly happy about.

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Hi Kieth,unfortunately I have no answers to ease your grief but here is something I just checked on.
You say you can’t sell up and move because you rent from a housing association. Well,I know council house tenants can house/flat swap and I’ve just checked and apparently housing associations have the same scheme for swapping properties. Have a word with them,you could at least be able to move away from your city after all.

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Hi Keith,
You can swap uour housing association flat, speak to rhe housing office. There’s a website with hundreds of house and flats.

I am also grieving, I lost my dad in August last year. I went on waiting list for Counselling here, yoi can also get Counselling from your GP or there is the Samaritans too.

Your GP can also put you in touch with a Social Prescriber. Believe it or kot keeping occupied helps. I found free Art therapy and volunteering awesome.
I guess it may be easier for me as I am self employed.
Wishing you some brighter days.

Hi Keith,
I know what you mean about existing. It always seems like that for me too.
When I get very down I always try to think how would my mum react to me being like this and it helps to pull me out of it.
Volunteering sounds a good idea. I keep saying I need to also but never get round to doing it. Are there any volunteering opportunities near you?
Moving to a new place may be good also but it’s a big thing to do especially when grieving.
Take your time and decide what you want to do. Look into what’s available and do some research on the areas . No harm in making enquiries.
Thinking of you
Deborah

I find my gp useless all i was given was a number to call. I was put on cadamol for back pain with turned out to be Myeloma Cancer. Is it home swap you are on about ? I uploaded photos of my flat on that site/ app. Not heard a thing, i wont hold my breath!

Mine is so so but my neighbour has changed GP about 4 times in the last few months, now she is happy. Apparently it is easy to change GP and there are many about. Sorry to hear about the Cancer - what a big mistake made by your GP - wish you well

I dont think gps are trained up to spot myeloma and i think its not easy for a gp to send someone to hospital like it use to be. So a lot of GPs will miss Myeloma. It effected my back as i had 5 hair line fractures last june that increased to 7 in July last year.

GP’s couldn’t even spot that my wife lost pounds and went from size 12 to size 8. It’s arthritis…yeah right. Wasted two years on that route only to find too late that it was actually stage 4 lung cancer. Now like everyone else here,I’m stuck in a never ending nightmare.

Sorry for your loss, its seems a luck of the draw now. I think you have to be persistent. Im lucky and im not as theres no cure for Myeloma Cancer. But it is treatable!