My mum died suddenly 15th January and her funeral is 7th February
My heart is broken she would have turned 80 in April.
She wax so full of life and everyone in ber home loved her.
I just don’t know how im going to make it through the day of the funeral she is having a burial
I have 13 year old with autism and she doesn’t understand fully.
We have decided for her not to attend and only come to the wake.
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So sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. I lost my mum new year’s day. She was 83 but still living very independently in her own home. I’d only seen her three hours before. I was dreading the funeral but somehow I found strength I wanted to really celebrate my wonderful mum and have a service that was filled with memories so others could see what a special lady she was. She was buried too so now reunited with my dad 
sending you love and strength x
Hi I feel for you my dad’s funeral is tomorrow and don’t think I can handle seeing the coffin so don’t think I’m going remember u don’t have to go I’m protecting myself by not going because I’m scared of having another breakdown u do what’s best for u but please don’t force yourself take care x
@Tinks1 You’ll find the strength from somewhere. I dreaded my Dad’s funeral last year but it was a proper celebration of his life & I’d have regretted not going (I considered this option but not seriously). It’s a time you can never get back & the last thing you can do for her. My niece was 12 & we didn’t think it was appropriate but she did come to the wake where she learned some new things about her Grandad lol. I hope it goes well. Just take the day a bit at a time is my advice. Funeral directors are incredibly supportive. Best wishes to you xx
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 6 months ago and I too used to wonder how anyone got through a funeral of a loved one. I couldn’t imagine how I would cope with seeing the coffin and dealing with my private grief in front of other people. But I knew that no day could ever be harder than the day the paramedic told me my husband had passed away. I had my family to support me and the wonderful funeral directors to guide me through every step of the way. My family and I spent days deciding on what poems, music, pictures, flowers and what tributes we had to write. By the day of the funeral I had gone over every thing hundreds of times. I too dreaded the arrival of the hearse. The Funeral Director’s had said the hearse could go direct to the crematorium but I wanted my husband to come home one last time so I could be with him on his final journey. The service was beautiful. I wanted to make my husband proud and I wanted everyone to know what a wonderful husband, father, grandfather, son and brother he was. It will be a difficult day but you will feel the love from everyone and all their kind words and stories will help you to get through the day. You are stronger than you think. Best wishes xx
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