It’s been two-and-a-half years since Heather died. But she is still here, all the time, in my head, smiling her gorgeous smile, from the moment I wake to the time I sleep. It’s guilt. The wrong things I did behind her back dance through my head constantly, but I can’t tell her how sorry I am. I know she would forgive me because that’s how she was. Always positive. Forgiving. The only escape is sleep, so I sleep a lot.
Is this normal? How long will it last?
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Hi @Tottybold . It sounds to me that you are suffering from something very similar to ptsd, when you are always digging up memories from the past, beating yourself over the head with it, put it away, only to dig it up again tomorrow and beat your head again, and again…
I had this problem, and organised some hypnotherapy, which worked superbly, and it now very rarely happens… Ive now been bereaved for 14 months, and my life is good again.
If you need more advice and details, just ask. Good luck.
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Hello.
My wife died in March this year.
It was very sudden and traumatic.
We had been in stressful situations due to a housemove and i had not been behaving towards her as i should. I cant get over the fact that i never got to make things better between us and tell her that i loved her more than she could imagine. The whole situation is terrible. I am seeking help via my GP and hoping things will get better.
You are not alone. I think our situation is one of the worst.
Dont give up i am sure your wife would understand you and forgive.
@RJK I lost my lovely husband in Sep 22.I am continually plagued by guilt should I have done this,that and the other re hospitals etc.
However if I remember any arguments or disputes I always remember what he always said to me”Ann it doesn’t matter what is said in an argument ,it’s nothing it’s what’s in our heart that matters and there is only love in our heart” So I always try to think of that.
After all every couple have their falling out.
Try to bypass what you are worrying about as she knew how you loved her
I’m still grieving for my husband ,a huge gaping hole in my chest.
We will try to keep going
Hugs
Annx
Thank you Ann.
Much love to you X