HI @ozstin123, it can be very difficult to visit the grave of a lost loved one for many people. However, for others it gives them great comfort and solace.
There was a discussion a while ago about this, mostly among people able to visit frequently, which may interest you: How Often Do Most people Visit The Grave
How often you visit is a very personal choice but is of course limited by circumstances. Your situation will be familiar to others who don’t live near that resting place and of course there are many who even live in a different country. We do what we feel we need to. It could mean no more than anniversaries, or as little as once every few years, or for those who might find it too upsetting, not visiting at all.
If you feel visiting is is something you need to do, then when you feel ready, make a date and go. But please don’t think there is a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ thing to do, nor is there a time limit on visiting. Whatever you choose doesn’t need to be qualified in any way. If you follow your heart, your choice will be right for you.
Take care
Mick
Online Community team