Good night Helen
I hope you have a peaceful evening and a good night’s sleep
Wishing you all the best
Tom 
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Anita66
It Is so true all that you say, i have these feelings too.we were married 36 happy years and my dear wife was taken so suddenly and unexpectedly.Here one minute gone the next, no time to say goodbye that so hurts me.I talk to her all the time, telling her how much i loved her and i always will, what a lovely wife she was to me.I feel i no longer belong, it feels like an alien world, everyone getting on with their lives, us we are consumed by grief and upset, no one really understands how we feel only us on this site.You are so right home is where the heart is and our heart is with our dear loved ones,my heart is with my dear wife and will be for eternity.Our home too no longer feels a “home” as i so loved, it feels so cold, empty, lonely and full of sadness where there was once joy and hapiness.I dread to think of the future growing old without my dear wife beside me to love and care for each other.I so hope things will get better for us, at the moment for me it feels things seem worse.We can only do our best on this pathway we find ourselves on, taking things step by step, moment by moment.Take care.
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Hi Nightwish1
thank you for your kindness too,it means a lot to me.These ‘Trigger” days are so hard for us, every day is difficult for us but these days sort of really hit home to us what has happened.i have my 15 months next month, 6 days after her birthday.I had her first birthday last may it was horrible.I will try and do something to commemorate her life and memory but it will be so upsetting.You are so right it does sometimes feel like yesterday, i often relive that awful sunday last february, its sort of ingrained in my mind..It really is a crap path we are on, its all so cruel and unfair.
Look after yourself.
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I’m so sorry your talk with your son didn’t go well. It’s also very sad he’s not answering your messages.
It’s at this time you need each other but keep posting on here and talk to us..
Sending you a big hug.
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the nightmare of the weekends begins, 11 till 1 am sleep 2 hours, up at 2 am can it get better, No it usually gets worse but I can hope like the rest of us, what will the day brings,peace ,laughter and joy
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Morning Spike
Not much sleep for me either. All we can do is hope x
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Morning All
Been awake for ages but didn’t get up just laying here listening to the birds and reflecting.
I can’t go out this morning as having to wait for a delivery, they say between 08:00-13:00 let’s hope it’s early.
I know weekends are hard for us all but some of you on here even harder as their loved ones passed on these days so know we are all on here for each other. Reach out if you need to… stay strong but also it’s ok not to be all the time xx
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Morning Heartbroken
Thank you for your message last night. My son losing his dad has scared him and sent him a little crazy, his behaviour is not normal. What can I do when I can see he needs help but won’t talk? Pushing both me and his sister away and filling every minute of his day is his way of shutting out the pain I think. I can only hope in time things will settle down.
I hope your delivery comes early and you can get out on what should be a lovely day x
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Good morning brummy. I hope you have had a reasonable night. I have, to my surprise. It’s all completely unpredictable isn’t it. Yes, thank you: my little dog lives pretty much in the moment so he perked up very soon. I don’t think I realized that you are still working. I imagine that can be a double edged sword - a great effort sometimes and a useful distraction at others? So now a weekend to face. My day yesterday never became a good one, my balance didn’t completely return but I had one exquisite moment which I treasure. I called in to offer some bulbs to a man who has a place right on the edge of the villlage. He lifted, very carefully, a rusty old wheelbarrow tray and there in the grass at the edge were three tiny little open beaks - wren chicks! I’m glad to say that he replaced their roof immediately and we left them in peace. What a treat. Today is Barrie’s birthday. I wonder how I will be. His daughter is away for the weekend and a friend who’s a sort of honorary daughter is also away. So it’s just me here who knows. Well I’ll find out soon enough. Good luck with your weekend.
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Morning John
I’m glad you slept okay. Your doing so well coping with your move. I must admit I’m scared already and I’ve not even packed a box (not even moved a thing of Stephens)
Next week I’ll start. It helps to read your positive posts. Have a good day x
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Good morning everyone
I hope you all have a lovely day
It’s four months to day without my lovely wife by my side. Missing her so much.,
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Morning Tom
These trigger dates are so hard to deal with.Hold on your happy memories, hope you get through your day as well as you can.Lovely picture
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Morning Tom
Have the best day you can. That’s a stunning photo of your beautiful wife x
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Morning Everyone
Weekend again let hope we all get through it as best as we can. I went to a talking table yesterday I have been before. There was a new lady there . She had lost her husband 3 years ago and was such an inspiration. She told me about a different meeting on Monday aptly named the after loss club . I am still debating whether to go or not. I going to the supermarket this morning looking after my grandson for a few hours. And will be walking my dog at some point.
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thought I’d try a new look to chear myself up,cut the mustache down into a pencil,English mustache, only took a hour, went for a walk still got upset on way home so that did not work,what can I try next, change of clothes from ripped jeans j Depp look to something else, I’ve bought some new stuff see how I fair today, if it makes me feel a bit better its worth it, got to try cant keep feeling like this for much longer,
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Thank you John that’s so kind x
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Thanks Sherbet10, I hope you have a lovely day.
All the best
Tom
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Thanks Helen, I couldn’t sleep last night. I hope you have a lovely day and a nice time with your sister later.
All the best
Tom
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Morning everyone
Heartbroken12.
Such a meaningful Saturday quote.
I think personally after our soulmate is not with us anymore, although I feel their spirit is always around. We try to seek some normality to our lives. We need a bit of happiness. Our soulmates were the ones who gave us joy by just being with us and doing simple things.
This past week has had its ups and downs. I’m trying to be a bit more positive today. I know it’s the weekend. Don’t like them anymore. Not doing much but the sun is shining here.
The positives this last week were my niece came Monday with her 2 little girls,4months and 2 years.
Such joy.
Tuesday I rang my friend in Market Harborough for a chat. She lost her husband 4 years ago. So we understand each other. Wednesday I went to chair yoga in the next village. Friday, I went out for lunch with a friend. Then each of my two sons in London faced timed. Then I sat outside and soaked in some sun.
Not so good things.
Tuesday was 5 years since my husband tried to commit suicide.
I had blotted the trauma from my mind, but the memory popped up. He lived for another 2 years but sadly died of cancer.
Wednesday was my daughter’s adopted son’s ( my grandson) 12th birthday. My daughter stopped all contact with me and the rest of the family about 6 months after her dad passed and moved away. No reason. Heartbreaking.
Found out a friend I had known for 50 years had died.
All our lives are full of ups and downs. A roller coaster, but in the past we had our soulmates to share the good and the bad times. 
Hope some small little joy in everyone’s day.
Take care. 
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Morning Helen
I hope you’re weekend and your stay at your sisters goes well for you . I am sure in time you son will come round . After my dad died my sisters and I fell out .We are different and grieving differently. So had to give each other some space to deal with it . We got back together a few months , and we’re ok afterwards.
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