I know I’m fortunate to have the offer of help from friends. I am grateful but my grief seems to be consuming me. I lost my brother Jay in March. My best friend my big brother who I knew was not destined for a long life due to ill health but I wasn’t ready to loose him. I coped I tried to adapt to my new normality. My other brother then suffers a life changing brain injury and needs my help. So Jay seemed further away. The person who would tell me it will be OK. So I keep going supporting my ill brother and grieving elderly mother. 3 weeks ago my mum became ill and died on Thursady. I still haven’t told my brother because he can’t cope and I need to be able to focus on taking care of my mum. Some may not agree with my decision not to tell my brother yet but I feel I need time for the chaos to stop for a moment and when I have sorted things for my mum I can support my brother. I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t feel I have had time to grieve for Jay. Now I’ve lost my mum. I’m tired of hearing Rie you are so strong but the truth is I’m barely hanging on xxx
I’m so sorry for your losses, Rie - that is a lot to cope with and it’s understandable you’re struggling to hang on. But you are important and deserve care and support too.
You don’t have to be strong on the community. Many of our members have experienced multiple losses and will understand what you’re going through.
It sounds like you’re ready to get some extra support now, is that right? It might be a good idea to make an appointment with your GP. They can talk through options like grief counselling with you. The AtALoss website is a good resource, too. It lists what grief support is available in your area.
Carers Trust offer advice and support to carers. They have support in Liverpool you might want to explore:
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts too. Take care,
Seaneen