Hi everyone it’s nearly time for the weekend again I dread them !
I went to my first bereavement group the other day proud of myself for going but I felt so out of place and so uncomfortable! I don’t know if I can go back , I was the youngest there and I’m in my 60s,the group was big I couldn’t say anything ,maybe it’s to early I just don’t know! My husband passed away on jan3rd this year some days I do really well and others I’m a complete mess I’m so lonely I just want a normal conversation not about death or cancer or being ill I don’t know what else to try this forum helps but it would be nice to speak to people ! I feel I’m going mad at times now the weekend is looming it doesn’t help anyone else feel the same way?
Hi @ABi2
It was 3 months before I went to my first bereavement group . There people who older than me who go . Recently some younger people have been coming . I been to quite a few talking tables . I don’t like the weekends, and a lot of others on here don’t like them either. Look after yourself.
Hi Sherbert 10 it’s nice to know people understand how you feel! can’t explain why,but I think it’s because there’s always couples about and that makes you feel even more lonelier, I just have to keep myself busy and not go out the weather doesn’t help,
Have a good evening and hope you have a decent weekend!
My wife died just over three weeks ago and I feel completely overwhelmed all the time. She was my world, did everything together and now I feel so alone
Hi @ABi2
I find it so hard when I see older couples, when I am out . It makes me feel like I was robbed of time we should have had together. My husband died suddenly from a heart attack he was only 64 just 6 days before his 65 birthday. I cope at the weekend s by trying to keep busy . Look after yourself self keep posting.
Hi @Holly6
I am so sorry for your loss , right now I now you will be in shock , if your eating , drinking and sleeping when you can you’re doing well. Take it a day at a time are even hour by hour . Focus on one thing a day . The first few months are horrible, it’s slowly becomes a little easier. Although everyone is different. Look after yourself.
Hi Holly 6 Sorry for your loss it’s a horrible time and early days but things will get better it just doesn’t seem like it right now! Keep posting on here we have all been where you are and understand exactly how you feel just do what you feel you can do and want to do not what other people tell you to do! Only you know what’s best for you have a lovely evening we are all here for you!
Hi Abi, its so true what you say.Weekends i find so hard, as my dear wife passed away on a sunday suddenly here at home.Its been over a year now but i still relive that awful day.I find seeing couples everywhere especially on saturday as i do my shopping so hard too.Its so cruel really, as though we are being shown how we were and so loved being together but now its just us all alone.I do hope you are ok and coping with this awful situation we find ourselves in.Take care.
I’m sorry the bereavement group didn’t help. The one I go too is mainly much older people but they are lovely. There are a few ladies my age who I try to sit by but I feel rude if one of the older ladies sits by me first. The first bereavement group I tried were holding a quiz on film idols, I left in the interval.
Maybe a bereavement group is too much at the moment. I’ve seen ladies walking groups, craft and chat, all sorts of things pop up after I searched on Facebook. When I’ve sold my house and found somewhere new I’m going to give them a try, if I don’t like it I don’t have to go again. I hope you find something, keeping busy is the only way I get through the day x
Ah “elderly couple envy”, Indeed. Mine started when my husband was diagnosed at 52 as his cancer was incurable. He was 62 when he died so he did well. You want to shake people and say don’t take your coupledom world for granted.
I agree weekends are hard. I have no real answers for that. I work for myself so often make them my work days.
