*Almost two years ago i lost my husband of 35 years to Cancer and Covid.
I still feel as destroyed today as i did the day he died, i don’t know how to do this awful silent lonely life without him.
I look to the future and all is see is a large black hole filled with sadness, anger, pain and desperation.
Someone please tell me, “how do i move forward”? …, *
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Hello @Moonshine-63 ,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your husband that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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I am so sorry for your loss. I do share your pain as I too lost my soulmate husband of 35 years so suddenly almost 7 months ago.
Everyone grieves differently so not sure if I can advise but all I can say is I have tried to keep busy as all these emotions hit you hardest when you’re not focusing on anything. I try to take one day at a time, go with the flow whatever I’m feeling I embrace it. I also tell myself I will carry on living life for the both of us, doing whatever we used to do together for the both of us. I talk to him morning, afternoon and night.
Sending hugs & strength
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I’m not sure how I will fare with the journey as I’m only on my first steps !
I have two beautiful daughters and 4 gorgeous grandchildren plus other family, especially my sister. I promised to visit my eldest daughter in Canada in spring,
It’s strange being in the house but I keep talking to her ( if she answers back then I’ll know I’m going crazy 
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I had arranged to retire early in December so spend quality time with her but we have been cruelly robbed of that opportunity
I have things I dad planned but one small step at a time
Get to the gym / get fit
Charity projects/ rotary
Travel
Photography
Sailing
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@Moonshine-63 I have lost my beloved little over two years too, and am also at loss of how to move forward…these days though, my brain juice is starting to come back, but my desire/will is equal to zero. So not sure what I could offer as any useful tip. I am thinking though, for me is to try to get into a drop in social circle just to be around people a bit, to have a more regular/stable contact environment. I have been noticing that part of our loss is the lost of the stable/unchanging component. It is both emotional. psychological and spiritual. So perhaps a regular social circle may help at least for a while. And recently, I have rejoined a bereavement support group. Now, I have to work on exercising, it is supposed to lift depression. Yet all these are not going to give us purpose… which is perhaps the biggest piece for us to move forward. So I think, may be by doing some of the self-care loving work, may give us the space to look around, ahead, and make better decisions. I pray for you and that God will send you human angels around to support you. Take care. Xx
@Moonshine-63 wrong spot, just replied to you 