My mum passed in May last year and my dad in 2022. I’ve been struggling to cope with losing them both but it’s been made more difficult by having to sell their house. Removing everything and going through their possessions has been heartbreaking, this is my family home where I grew up with my brothers. The thought of not being able to just nip down and sit in the garden having a cuppa etc with mum is killing me. We are close to exchanging contracts now and I know the day will come when I have to hand the keys over. How do I cope and get through this? Xx
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My mum died 29 years ago and lived in a rented house so no choice but to get rid of it all apart from her clothes which I gave a lot to her aunt who was still alive.
I kept my mum’s coats and some old jewellery and sentimental stuff.
I have trouble getting rid of my late husband’s things because I don’t have to.
You asked how do you cope?
I can only say it was traumatic. Sold a lot.
Kept putting notices up for sale. My husband got someone to take some stuff from the loft. Think maybe auction.
But I had help then. Now very limited. My son sold my husband’s car and cycle. I took a big overcoat to Age Uk. I coped badly because no stamina. Whereas was fitter of course when mum died. Emotionally all tough.
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Thank you, I have donated a lot to charity and kept some of her clothes and her jewelry which she wanted me to have. It’s going to be so hard emotionally letting go of the house, so much harder because both mum and dad both passed in the house. Xx
Yes as you say tough. Both my parents lived half their lives in the house .
For years every time had to tend their grave nearby I would drive by the house.
Get upset their garden was changed. In fact everything changed. It was like I was trying to go home.
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I know what you mean, it is so very difficult. To others it’s just a house, but to us it was a big part of our lives. 