How do I cope losing after losing my mum? I cared for her for nearly 20 years due to physical ailments. 4 years ago she was diagnosed with vascular dementia and I looked after her for as long as I could. She went into full time care in 2021 and lost her battle 5 weeks ago. I’m broken! I fixed her for years and I couldn’t fix this. I don’t want to be around people or talk and I’ve been told that this is wrong and I’m pushing people away. I don’t know how to do life without my Mum in it. I saw her everyday and now nothing!! She was only 73 and I feel robbed!! Help! I don’t know what to do?!
Hi Diana, I’m sorry your mum has gone from your life. Know that there are many on this site that have cared for loved ones for many years and feel a vast hole in their lives as you do. I won’t say it will go away quickly because it won’t totally but as with any loss of a loved one they stay with you in your heart and in your memories. Small steps are the way forward and they don’t necessarily mean at this stage involving anyone but you. Maybe there was something you enjoyed doing when you were young that you can pick up again in a small way. Since my husband of 45 years passed I have picked up doing yoga again in my own dodgy way. I may never go to a class but it does help me. The world won’t and shouldn’t ever go away but you can let it in a little at a time and in your own way. Know that people on this site really understand and wish nothing but the best in coming days
Hi i know how you feel i was my mums carer she had dementia to i had looked after her for 18 years she passed away September 2023 i am finding it so hard to cope i miss her so much x