I am feeling so lost and empty, my husband died 6 months ago, after 50 wonderful years of marriage, we did absolutely everything together and now I am so lost. I am trying to build a new life, I have joined a choir and get out and about during the day, when I can, but I am so, so numb and lonely and seem to miss him more everyday, I don’t know how to carry on 
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Hi @Burnsie66
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your husband. 50 years was a remarkable achievement and you should be so proud.
I lost my husband last 9 months ago we managed to celebrate our 40th anniversary.
The loss is incredible.
Its difficult there is no short cut in grief.
I too try when I can to get out during the day even if its just to the shops.
But no matter what I do the coming home to an empty house (lthough I have a dog but shes struggling too ). It’s like a fresh wave of sadness and loneliness.
I hope you have a support system, family friends…unfortunately Ive really felt a shift in that support as time moves on for them as they are not living my reality.
I am trying to keep in mind the spirit that my husband had his love of life and getting out and doing. Devastating as it is that he’s no longer with me Im trying to keep in mind what he’d want me to do…and thats to keep trying to take one step at a time, and hopefully the better days may outweigh the bad ones going forward.
We all deal with things differently as all our relationships were different… have you any grief support groups in your area ?
Joining this site has helped as this is a lonely journey but knowing that there are people who truly understand is a great support .
I hope today is a choir day and you are out meeting other people.
Sending you hugs and know that there is great support on this site. 
x
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Hi Zena, thanks for your kind comforting words. I know looking through the postings here that so many people are living through the same hurt. Our new song at choir practice on Monday was Lewis Capaldi’s ‘somebody to love’ it was very hard, yet almost comforting to have over 50 people singing the beautiful words. The empty house, especially at night is so difficult to face. I am sending you hugs and loving wishes, to your little doggie too, Trish 
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Im in awe of you…I cant sing a note 
…but to be able to join in and get some of your emotions out in this way is therapeutic. Especially that kind of song .
I struggle to listen to music nowadays as I always end up in floods of tears. We loved to dance and loved music…cant see me dancing again…although my husband said that Pinks song Never not gonna dance again was my song…(some words are choice 
).bless him…long before he was ill.
I try to keep that in mind 
…
The evenings are difficult but know im here and so are others for you. X
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Music is very emotional 
it may be painful now, but one day you will listen to that Pink song and probably get a comforting warm glow remembering your husband 
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Im so sorry for your loss, 50 years is a remarkable year to celebrate, i lost my beloved husband after 22 years and I struggle everyday without (i cant imagine how you feel).
Being on here helps me to get things off my chest and how i feel.