Husband

Losing a partner
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I lost my husband last May I always got on well with his mother but she has changed received xmas card she always used to sign it mum but this year she signed it with her name

She was also quick to say that when she goes anything that was left to her son my late husband it would go to our son

Does anybody else have the same problem as me as I feel now that I am not part of the family

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I’m sorry, @Mazy1. I can see why that would feel hurtful.

I’m just giving your thread a gentle bump. I’m sure someone will have some thoughts to share.

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Hello, my view is that she didn’t sign the card as Mum because your not her child, good news is she still sent you a card & in respect of inheritance her feelings may be that it is to go to “blood” ie her grandson.

I can see how this would be hurtful to you but try & see it as not a reflection on your relationship with her.

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I’m so sorry that your husband died recently. I know the feeling. My husband died in 2024. It’s difficult for those left behind to go on but we have to. That’s unfortunate that the family is not treating you better. My husband was 83 so most of his family had already passed on but the ones that are left are treating me like I don’t exist. No call, card or letter when my husband died. I feel like I’m not part of the family anymore either. The one thing that has helped me is to turn to God and ask for his help and he has helped me. Just talk to him like he’s your best friend and he is! Going to church is a good idea also. I don’t go to church because I am incontinent. I do read the Bible every day and that is very comforting. I will say a prayer for you.

Snowy Evening

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Thank you my husband was only 62 and I am only 65 if I did not make effort to go and see his mother each week whom she is 86 I would not see or hear from her

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Thanks but my son and I think that the relationship is broken now