I lost my mum in March 2024 and although devastating, i have to say with the anti depressants i was already on,i got through it.my husband was a big support.However,he then lost his mum in october and for the first couple of months he was not too bad. This left him with the only family being his brother who lives 60 miles away. However, he wasnt sleeping well so the doctor prescribed a low dose of mirtazapine. This helped with his sleeping but a couple of weeks before christmas he started being very snappy and i felt like i couldnt do anything right.christmas was ok and we went away with friends for new year.he upset me twice by being snappy which is just not him. He is normally such a nice bloke. The day after we got home, he was snappy again and told me he couldnt have left whilst his mum was alive as she would have thought he was mad and that he was less tolerable to things. The first words left me devastated and i told him life was not worth living without him.he said that i didnt love him but told him i did.since then i have been close to suicide because of the pain.he seems to be waking up a different person each day and one day he is hugging and kissing me and the next day stand offish. I dont know what to do.i said i was there for him but he said if he talks to me he will say things that will upset me.we were really good together before and i am desperate to go back there.i know he feels overwhelmed with everything that he has on his plate at the moment, sorting probate,grave ownership, worrying about his brother being alone (he looked after his mum) and a new role at work and i have been trying to help. However,today i said i loved him and he didnt say it back until i sort of coerced him…i am so anxious and just dont want to be in the same room as him at the moment and just cry.i am scared of telling him how i feel in case he tells me something i dont want to hear
Hello @Jsquared72,
I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. I’m hearing how painful this is all feeling and I want you to know that you’re not alone. There’s always someone out there to help you through this.
I’m worried to hear that you’ve been feeling close to suicide. There is lots of support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support but I wanted to share these resources with you too.
Take care,
Seaneen
Thank you so much for your message