I wondered if anyone has had experience with hypnosis/hypnotherapy for bereavement? I didn’t want to go down the antidepressant route but today I’ve been so lethargic and angry I’m looking into it as an alternative.
Hi Steve, @Susie55 posted about this today, you might want to speak to her.
Thank you! I hope you’re doing ok today, I read a lot of your posts also and always find them interesting
Thanks, Steve. Coping ok for the past week, thankfully. Had a very bad period of depression for a few weeks before that. I guess there’s always hope when we’re really struggling that the next week might be better. I know what you mean about not wanting to go back on anti-depressants, so hopefully Susie will give you the information you need regarding her experience of hypnotherapy.
Hi Steve. I have had hypnotherapy for my depression last year and it practically saved my life. It wasn’t depression due to bereavement at that time but I was about to lose yet another job and within 24 hours I was back at work and until this recent bereavement I have been doing great. I’m happy to forward the details of the lady I saw she is based in ormskirk.
I have had almost every type of antidepressant. Saw several psychiatrists and nothing helped me but this.
Thank you and ormskirk isn’t that far from me so yes please!
Hi Steve if you are on FB her name is Nikki kewley or I have a number for her too. X
Thank you, I think I’ve found her x
Hey @Steve212, how are things? Hope you’re coping ok.
Thank you for asking. Sometimes I’m ok , sometimes I’m so angry and sometimes like past two days I feel quite low. Grief is so chaotic isn’t it? Someone posted on here about withdrawing from the world and I’m doing a little of that too. I feel safe at home, safe to cry, safe to think and safe to try get up the courage to accomplish routines. I’ve bought a parakeet for a bit of life in my home. It’s a nice distraction.
I do wish it was approaching summer and not winter. The sun seems to warm my mood.
How are you doing?
Don’t try to force yourself through grief, it seems to be something that has to be controlled gradually. Afraid it’s a roller coaster of emotions that we have to cope with.
It’s nearly two years for me and some days I feel as if I’m doing well and then I go down with a bang and have a terrible day. I do know now that I will come through these days and tomorrow could be totally different and I will smile and even laugh again.
Today I decided to listen to my husband singing. Not a good idea, I thought I was beginning to cope with it and should be grateful that I can hear his voice at least but it reduced me to an emotional wreck. Today was not a day I could cope. I imagined my lovely, good looking husband up on stage. I could hear the clapping and his voice thanking them. So talk about ups and downs they keep coming but we do learn to live with them.
It’s chaotic all right.
Hey @Steve212, I am sorry you have had a few days of feeling low. Grief definitely is chaotic. A parakeet seems like a great idea - have you had one before? What is it called? I wish I could keep a cat, but I rent a room in a houseshare and no pets allowed. I am ok, couldn’t get out of bed till noon, and then didn’t have ths strength to get dressed and walk 10 minutes into town so just stayed in my room all day. I hate that, I need to go out each day, hopefully tomorrow. And, yes, I know what you mean about winter, I dread short days where you feel trapped indoors.
Sorry to hear that you didn’t have a good day today, @Pattidot, what kind of a singer was Brian? Was he part of a band or more of a karaoke type singer?
I have a diploma in hypnotherapy and practiced in the London Metropitan Police whilst a serving officer. Grief is a NATURAL PROCESS and sadly must be worked through in its own way. In other words its not a deep rooted subconscious trauma or phobia that needs bringing to the surface in order to heal which Hypnotherapy is designed to deal with. Neither is it an every day problem that can be resolved with a few hypnotic suggestions. Hypnosis /Hypnotherapy may temporarily release your present anxiety, sadness and feelings of despair but the grief needs to express itself and taking short cuts to drive it away are questionable.
Love and Light
Regarding my husband. He was a Country and Western singer for 30 years with a band. NEVER in a million years would he have got up and done karaoke. He used to joke that he only sang when he was paid. This was because he was well known locally at the time and people would try and get him up on stage when we went to a dance and he hated this pressure being a quiet man.
I am so sorry you have had a bad day. You know yourself that staying in your room all day is just not good for you but I can imagine just how hard it is for you if you can’t find that strength to motivate yourself. I hope you can find that strength today even in the rain (if you have it). Walking will help you I am sure.
Take care of yourself
Haha @ Brian saying that, who can blame him, I guess when you’re a much sought talented artist, you expect to be paid! A few years ago I went with a former colleague to see a band play in a pub, there were lots of bands playing that day, and my friend and I were talking how many of these are as good, if not better, than most famous bands, and how success is so much dependent on luck. It is, isn’t it, so many talented artists that no one has even heard of.
Anyway, I hope the next time you listen to him it is happier memories, and not sad ones. And I am sure @Steve212 doesn’t mind if I have gone slightly off topic, he’s a nice guy, and I was just curious as to what kind of a singer your husband was. I didn’t go out again today, but tomorrow is another day as they say, so I will forget about today and think about tomorrow.
Thanks Geoff for your knowledgeable explanation on hypnotherapy. I agree grief is a natural process no matter how hard it becomes and cannot see that there is ever a short cut. No quick fix unfortunately.
Just reading your post.
Your roght about rollercoaster of emotions
Like you said some days you feel you csn cope
Other days just feel so sad burst jnto tears
Easier said than done isnt it to move on.
My counsellor was saying i need to accept things to be able to move forward.
I personally feel that your counsellor is correct. We won’t leave our loved ones behind that’s for sure. Nearly two years for me and I have come to accept the bad days as part of my life now and find it’s not so hard to accept the rough days as I know that the next day might be a lot better.
I don’t even think about moving on I just accept each day as it comes.