I can't do this anymore

Losing a partner
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I can’t do this anymore :sob::broken_heart: it’s been ten weeks now since I lost my amazing other half to Cancer. I am not managing without him, I don’t know how to do this without him.

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Hi KelMarie,

It is still very early for you, and having a 8 year will be hard for you. Can you have a word with your doctor. It really is a step at a time. Just focus on the basics at the moment, eating and feeding your kid, and any pets if you have them. Drink plenty of liquid (water) and try and sleep. I know these are hard, trust me. Rant or ramble on here, I am afraid we understand. If you have support please use it.

Please look after yourself and take care.

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Many of us have felt like you do and still feel we can’t manage without them. You’ll have bad days, even worse days and some days where you feel you’re coping. Perhaps talk to your GP. You are still so early on in grief. I can’t say you’ll feel better soon but if you have family or friends who can support you use that support. Take care and keep on posting, we all understand those feelings.

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KelMarie
I’m so sorry you have lost your husband.
The hurt, the pain is excruciating I know.
I too lost my husband to cancer almost 18 weeks ago.
Grief really has no timeline, I have days where tears are manageable and other days where the tears cannot be stopped.
From reading other posts on here I find this is very normal, not pleasant, but very normal.
I try to find positivity in each day, yes it’s hard but we do have to carry on we really do.
If we hadn’t loved our husbands / wives so much we wouldn’t be so full of grief.
You will find each day does get a tiny bit better don’t expect too much of yourself but do look after yourself, please.
You are not alone you really aren’t.
I’m thinking of you and sending you a big hug.
Take care :heart:

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Hi Kel Marie. I lost my wife just before Christmas. I have a 12 year old daughter. Just try to be kind to yourself, don’t think ‘i should do this’ or ‘i shouldnt do that’ just be. focus on your daughter.sometimes just getting up is an achievement. Take all the help you get offered. Speak to your GP they can help with sleeping and depression. Give yourself credit for anything and everything you achieve,for instance you have reached out to this group so we’ll done! It took me 3 months.

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