I cant go on

Coping with bereavement
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25 days since you left me …im distraught i cant do this. So want to be with him .

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Hang on in there, Rosie :yellow_heart:. Stay afloat. Be kind to yourself. Look after yourself.

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I dont know how

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I cant cope with how i feel

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My man died because the ambulance took 143 minutes ,he should be here.

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So sorry to hear that. A lot of us here are bereft because of failings in the healthcare system, myself included. We understand. Keep posting :yellow_heart:.

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Hello @Rosie3,

I’m sorry to hear about your partner. I’m hearing how painful this is all feeling for you. Well done for reaching out here - you are not alone.

You are feeling like you don’t know how to look after yourself and how to cope, so I want to share some things with you that may help you right now.

We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Rosie3, get in touch with one of these services.

Take good care,
Seaneen

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@Rosie3 hang in there. For now just put one foot in front of the other and only think about the next hour in front of you. I know it’s hard and so incredibly painful and you want this pain to stop but the reality is, you have to walk through this. Just eat, drink, sleep and focus on the next hour.

Your body is trying so hard and flooding you with so many hormones to try and protect you. You’ll feel all over the place and it will hurt more than you feel you can manage. But you can. It will get easier but it takes time.

Those early painful days do get easier. The pain will dull.

Keep reaching out, days can get dark and wanting to be with them is a very common feeling. I’m sure he would want you to live.

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Rosie, so sorry; it’s so very hard. No, you won’t know to go on; I still don’t after three months. All you can do for now is to concentrate on keeping yourself fed and try to rest. It does get a little easier, but it takes time.

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