So sorry for your loss. My partner passed away at the start of December, we are still without a cause (he was only in his 20s so we are really struggling with not knowing how he suddenly died) but I completely get your feelings of not being able to continue. Similarly to you, I go round to his parents house daily - I get a lot of comfort being around them as none of my friends or family can really understand what I am going through.
I’ve found I’ve reached a point where I can have good days (some days I don’t even cry at all anymore) but then other days are as though he died yesterday.
We sadly never got round to having children, it had been discussed but we both agreed we wanted to wait until we were older - I would do anything now to have his children so a part of him could still be alive and with me.
@Hollyh11 I’m so terribly sorry to read of the tragic death of your fiancé, It is almost impossible to offer any words of sympathy but every member of this group will understand what you and your two children are going through. It is a pain both emotional and physical and one has to have gone through it to understand.
Take one day at a time and try to keep busy, it won’t take the pain or the loss away but it will distract from it.
Some people keep a diary where they write their thoughts and feelings; I text my late wife; the message doesn’t travel far, since her phone is within sight of me but it gives me peace to tell her the things I wish I’d told her when she was alive.
@Hollyh11 & @Ellxox
I’m so sorry to hear of you tragic loss of ones so young. Nothing anyone can say will make it easier but know that you are among friends here, who have all lost their soulmate.
It is nine months since I lost my darling husband and each day is different in how I cope with it. There is no pattern to grief but there are similarities between our emotions so others will understand.
Sending love to you both. xxx
Hi Holly I lost my partner 9 weeks ago I’m still grieving I usually talk to his photos I managed to take some before he died I got lovely frames for them and have them in living room I have his ashes here but haven’t scattered them yet I still have a lot of his clothes in the wardrobe I feel if I get rid of them I’m getting rid of him but there’s no hurry for anything you have your cry I do something set me off on train the other day you just don’t know when or where it will happen love to you c
Oh holly im so sorry for you. Its a terrible thing is grief isnt it ? It completely takes over your life. I lost my husband just before xmas and its such a shock isnt it ! You just cant believe they are gone ! Just like that ! How can it be that the man you loved just isnt there anymore ? I keep waking up seeing visions of him walking about the house or dreaming hes talking to me.
Interesting you are getting more comfort from his family rather than your own !