I can't seem to get a grip

Coping with bereavement
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Hi -
I lost my beloved Father nearly 2 years ago. 8 weeks after his death I found my beautiful husband dead on the bedroom floor. I am just numb, withdrawing more and more from everyday life. I don’t really want to be here anymore. I am full of guilt that my husband had a heart attack and died immediately and I was only in another room. We had had a disagreement earlier in the day. My life hasn’t been a walk in the park but I was a strong person and able to deal with this. I get up every day and try to motivate myself to do things but, mostly, I end up sitting in a chair until it is time to go to bed. I know I must try and improve but I have lost interest and the grief seems to be getting worse rather than better. I’m not in the best of health which doesn’t help! Sometimes I don’t know what day it is. I have very good friends, a lovely family, but…

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Hello @Girl, thank you for reaching out. I am so sorry for the death of your father and husband. Losing two people whom you love within such a short space of time would be incredibly difficult.

You mention that you’re feeling numb and withdrawn and that your grief seems to be getting worse. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share our video about complicated grief. Complicated grief is when grief doesn’t seem to change or shift at all. In complicated grief, you can find yourself ‘stuck’, perhaps unable to feel sad or cry, or perhaps you feel too sad to manage your day-to-day life. Our Head of Bereavement Bianca shares signs that you might be experiencing complicated grief and need some further support.

You may also find these resources helpful:

Take good care - you are not alone.
Seaneen

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Thank you Seaneen