I lost my dad on 18th February this year. It is only now really hitting me and I don’t think I’m coping too well. I am focusing on making sure my mum is ok, but I don’t think I’m ok.
He had a fall, when I got to him he wasn’t breathing, I performed cpr until the paramedics arrived. They worked on him for 45 minutes, they couldn’t bring him back. Did I not do cpr effectively? (I have had first aid training)
Coroner said heart and renal failure.
I just wasn’t ready for him to go even though he wasn’t a well man.
God I miss him so much
A white feather drifted down outside my window this evening
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Hi, i am very sorry for you’re loss.
I lost my Dad on Christmas day 2024. He was over 100 miles away. Then i lost my wife to cancer on the 25th January.
Like you Sue collapsed and i had to do cpr till the Ambulance arrived. By the time she got to the hospital her heart had stopped a couple of times in the ambulance. They were fighting to keep it going in the hospital. I saw them( not a nice sight). Then i saw the tubes and a machine keeping her heart going. So after talking to the doctors, i had to say the words let her go. Which kill me still. So Sue died with me holding her hand listening to her favourite song ( i had taken my i-pod down).
So i am afraid i know about guilt. I have been told i did the right thing and I’m not a professional. So we did are best and that’s what we have remember. Even though it at the moment it is hard. Take care and look after yourself
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Thank you for your kind words
Some things are just out of your control so don’t blame yourself. You did what you could and so hold on to that