Me and my husband brought our first house last June, our forever home. He died unexpectedly this February, so didn’t even see a year here
Due to the house now being too big for me on my own, as well as now not able to afford the mortgage on my own, (he didn’t have life insurance) I’m selling and downsizing. Offer accepted and found my next place.
All I keep hearing is this is a new start or you’re moving on! I know people mean well, but each time I hear this it’s like a dagger to my heart. I don’t want a new start. I don’t want to move on. All I want is to go back in time to before his operation and plead with him not to have it.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
It’s like a double loss…
It’s ok to tell people this, they do genuinely think they’re helping but they’re not, it’s heartbreaking.
I wish I could say something to help, but please know youre not alone here x
Downsizing ,and surviving is not “moving on” and the “new start” began the day your husband died but only widows and widowers understand. I am truly sorry you lost your husband and your forever home and all your dreams for your future. These are Earth-shattering, life-altering losses. You are still standing. I applaud you for getting one house sold and the other purchased and you must be a wreck! You are tougher than you thought and tougher than you ever wanted to be, I suppose. But, you did it. This isn’t moving on, but it is the next chapter in your life, so I pray that you find peace in your new nest and that the world is kind to you.
So sorry to hear this people saying move on are inconsiderate they say times a healer grief is love with no where to go I lost my fiancé suddenly last July aged 51 he had everything to live for his daughter me amd his love for music as he was a DJ feels like yesterday I’m
Moving forward slowly I’ve no interest in anyone else and taking meds to help me cope with ptsd I live with my eldest and we have a cat each she’s been a blessing my eldest and my sister just find comfort they are always with us
