In January I lost my beautiful mum suddenly, on September 7th I lost my dad though lung cancer.
I feel lost and don’t know what to do anymore, and I really can’t stand the thought of Christmas without them
I just keep crying and feel like I have nowhere to turn
hello marie, my heart goes out to you. you’ve suffered so much loss in the past 12 months. cry, it’s okay to cry. i’m an only child and recently lost my mum and going through what you’re going through. it’s okay to cry. you’re not alone in this.
@Marie8 so sorry to hear what you have been through over the last 12 months. My dad died in March and my mum in 1996 but feel I am grieving for them both now - illy dad leaving has brought all sorts of feelings to the front now. You are not alone and if you ever feel like a chat please message me. Xmas will be very difficult but I know this is awful but it will be all over soon. That’s how I feel - get my head down and just get through it as best I can. Take care
Hugs. So sorry. Dreading Christmas too, with none of my parents here now, and I know the feeling of having nowhere to turn.
So much has happened so suddenly you must be so shocked. I am still feeling from my Mum’s death last year. We just need to get through Christmas however we can, overeat, cry, think about our lives ones or distract ourselves anyway possible. I found helplines kept me going when there was noone you could ring. The volunteers are there to offer comfort and an ear.
Thank you all for your kind words, I will take on your advice and stop putting pressure on myself and to just try and get through as best as I can
People expect you to conform and put on a brave face. Perish the thought you mention your loved one or the L word! Maybe they haven’t been loved properly themselves? Giving you a virtual hug!
Hi @Marie8. I lost my mum in September, she also had lung cancer. She was my only parent, brought me up alone, so I feel so lost with no parent left to support me. It’s heartbreaking, I miss her so much, she was such an incredible human. This will be my first Christmas without her, I don’t know how to get through it. She loved Christmas, so part of me feels I should celebrate it for her. But it’s so hard, all I want is to have her back. I’m sure you must feel similar. I keep crying also and feel so vulnerable without her here, she was my safety. Do you have anyone you can talk to for support, such as other family members or a partner or friends?, I think the main thing is we shouldn’t put any pressure on ourselves to be OK this Christmas, however we are feeling, we are justified to feel it. Here if you need to talk x
Sending you hugs,lost my mum in April, and can’t bear to think how I’m going to cope at Christmas, I’m an only child, both my parents are gone, just have no one to turn to, or talk to, I’ve never been so sad in all my life
I’m an only child. We had such a close bond and friendship it’s like losing two people at once. I have kind people who ring but the emptiness of the house and the little sounds she’d make moving around are missing. I hate we have to go through this, however much you anticipate loss it seems it’s never anywhere near. I hope we all find some kind of peace and maybe feel the love we enjoyed when our Mum’s were alive at some moments. Sending love
I can completely relate to this, I am not the same person I was 12 months ago
I feel the same.
I feel so alone and isolated. I am estranged from the rest of the family and it hurts so much
You can always turn to us. I feel your pain
Hiya janebee
Thank you for your message it’s an awful feeling everyone is getting excited and I can’t even write a Xmas card.
Knowing that someone understands how I am feeling is a comfort
I am always here to chat. I hate this time of year . Sending a big hug
Same here, thank you bigs hugs to you also x