SO, it’s now 1 yr 6 months since i lost Jimmy and this weekend has been awful. I feel I’ve gone backwards. I’ve been so lonely, all my lovely friends have their own lives and families, so can’t worry about me all the time. I’m just lost and feel so low. I don’t have children of my own and are just rojnf my elderly parents every day helping them.
Iv got afew days away booked in july and September… but again, it’s in my own.
Please can someone cheer me up 
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Hi im finding this weekend really hard it was 3mths 3 weeks yesterday, i went away with family for a week got back friday it was so hard coming back ive spent my time crying since friday, i dont want to tell my family or friends how bad im feeling its like a constant pain that doesnt stop, i dont have anyone visiting i spend most of my days alone the nights are really bad, sorry i know you said you needed chearing up, i also feel like ive gone back, sorry for your loss x
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@Llw its awful isn’t it 
i went through a better stage thinking i was doing OK…ish, but it’s just rubbish! I don’t wish anyone to feel like this, but also glad I’m not alone. Sending much love xxx
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My thoughts exactly its awful x
Sending you love back xx
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@Sable I lost my lovely wife just over 6 weeks ago and sorry I can’t really cheer you up.
First, so sorry for the loss of your Jimmy. Seems like there’s been a lot of people here, who have either passed or grieving whose names begin with ‘J’. 
. My wife’s name was Jackie.
I am sat here looking at the rain through my front window, willing someone to come and knock my front door. It’s not going to happen, I know, but it stops me sobbing.
We were together for over 60 years of which nearly 58 were married. It’s not all been a bed of roses, but we lovingly stuck together until the very end at 09.38 on Saturday 8th March 2025.
This grief is unlike any other I have experienced in my long life. The good thing, if I may call it good, is that we are not unique. So many here have sadly experienced similar losses and can pass on a lot of useful advice. It won’t help you ‘get over it’ as you never will, however you will learn to live with the loss. Life has to go on. Our partners would want us to and our families and friends want us to.
In our long time together, I am lucky enough to have numerous memories in the form of pictures, videos and those in my head.
I have put music, in the form of demos of my songs to videos taken in the late 60s and early 70s. I had this one, which was partially inspired by Jackie, played at her funeral.
You take care.
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@Johnr … that’s a beautiful video, and so many treasured memories 
I was with Jimmy for 24 years, but have known him since i was 16, so nearly 50 years.
I know he’d hate to see me so sad. My parents are v elderly… my dad’s 100 this year!. They keep telling me to live my life and not worry about them. But i feel i have no life!.. its a lot harder to make new friends when you’re older , plus everyone just has their own lives. But… hey ho!..i have more than alot of people and should be thankful I’m fit and healthy and get cross with myself for being miserable.
Tomorrow’s a new day… so I’m going to buck myself up, get out of my self pity mode and start, or try to make the most of what i have.
Keep strong everyone 
xxx
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Your reply came just in the middle of one of my daily sobbing fits.
Whenever I try to do a job that involves something related to my wife, I cry.
Today it’s bad as I’m trying to set up a TV in our living room, right where she passed away. I can feel her telling me, I am doing it wrong😢
I can only spend a few minutes on each job and then I have to take a break to cry.
We are both heartbroken 
but we do need to try and carry on the best we can.
Please make the most of what you have and keep strong. xx
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