My mother died suddenly at the start of this year. She popped to the chemist and never returned. Just like that. Died. Amongst the whirlwind of emotions, I just feel like she was robbed. Robbed of her future, her retirement, her plans, everything. Only 65 years young, looking forward to enjoying the rest of her life after working tremendously hard, raised two kids on her own. She finally gets to the point where she can enjoy the fruits of her labour and it was snatched away from her. I feel like I’ve been robbed too. It keeps dawning on me that any life event (having kids, marriage, my first home) will all now be without my mum. I’m completely devastated.
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I’m so sorry Lavender.
It’s unfair. Your mum didn’t deserve that and neither do you. I feel exactly the same. My mum was a similar age, she died recently and I’m only 32, I have my whole future ahead without her that she won’t get to see. My mum was in hospital at the end but it happened so quick I didn’t realise she was going to die until that last day so it was still very sudden. But it sounds so awfully sudden for you and unexpected. I won’t say it’s fair or right because it’s not. But I bet your mum loved you so much and would want you to carry on and do all those things you listed. Hopefully she will still see you do them by watching over you.
I light a candle in front of my mum’s picture every day and still talk to her and tell her things. Perhaps you could try that to feel close to her still?
Sending love x
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I’m so so sorry to hear about your mum too. I’m also 32 but I still feel like her baby girl. I talk to her when I’m in her room but I really love the idea of a picture and a candle. Sending you lots of love and best wishes x
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@Lavender1 I feel your pain. I’m 46, my mum died 11 days ago. My daughter is only 11 and I feel roobed too, feel robbed for my daughter. That my mum won’t see her growing up and doing amazing things. My mum loved her so much. I’m really angry that we didn’t spend more time toghether (she lived in a different country). I’m having a really bad day today, can’t stop crying… Hope you find some peace soon, sending you lots of hugs 🩷
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@Woo4 Sorry for your loss. I’ve also been lighting a candle in front of her picture since her death on 5th February
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Im so sorry for your loss. My Dad passed suddenly aged just 64 and i was 27 and i remember having all those thoughts. He had recently retired and really enjoyed his retirement, travelling and lots of hobbies. He had so much he wanted to DO. He had ordered a brand new car for the first time ever and was getting excited about its delivery and it broke my heart he never got to see it. And then all the thoughts of he’ll never walk me down the aisle etc. My heart goes out to you 
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@Ally6 its so unfair, isn’t it. All the plans we had, all meetings that will never happen now. Too soon, never enough with us here, I’m really hurting today… hugs to you 
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Aw I know what you mean! I was reading old texts from my mum and she called me her special little girl 
I’ve felt like such a lost kid since she’s died. Such a lonely feeling.
Here if you ever want to chat x
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Im so sorry to hear about your mum. Its heartbreaking when you realise that they arent going to be there during the big events in your life. I lost my mum at 28 years old and my dad at 32 years old (December 2023). They were both in their early to mid 60’s. When I lost my mum the counsellor i was speaking to suggested I write letters to my mum. I still do that now, and now to my dad too. To tell them whats happening in my life and also how im feeling. If I ever need any advice, I always think what would my mum/dad say. They have never truly gone, they are in your memories, in your mind when you need advice, in the way you do certain things. They are part of you. It will get easier. Sending love.
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