Hi Jan
It’s not an easy road by any means but we do find a way to move forward. We never want to forget them or the joy they brought to our lives and if anything they are as much a part of our lives as they ever were and we love them even more but we have to adapt.
Good luck
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@Pattidot - thank you and let’s all of us stay close on here. All that matters is that we can take the next step. Going together, doing this together, as you say, makes it possible. I’m in. Thank you x
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My darling. I think being kind to ourselves means not being hard on ourselves, our thought, our feelings as we battle this journey of loss, grief & all encompassing pain. Like you, I have to work, I am 22 years younger than my retired, beloved Mick was. Have to work. No savings, no life insurance, debts. Smiling when inside I am screaming in pain. Keep telling myself, I dont have to carry on, i can end it now. What stops me is knowing that my beautiful husband would be horrified that I am feeling this way when he battled so hard to live. Every moment of every day, there isnt a second where I dont want to die and be with him. But something tells me, there isnt a moment where he wants to be with me to help me continue to live, just as he wanted to. He will come to you when he is settled my love. 15 weeks after my husbands passing, i have been receiving signs. And you will too. They never leave us. They just need time to adjust to their new surroundings, meet with their loved ones in heaven, and then they return to comfort us, spend time with us. Leaving us is as difficult for them as us losing them. Im trying to heal right now by looking at photos of my beautiful, brave man, and realising that every time I do, i experience love at first sight all over again
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