I just can't believe it

I lost my wife 6 months ago. This community has helped loads but like everyone here knows, it’s a daily torture to simply put one foot in front of the other. Last Friday I said out loud to myself that things are very slowly getting better. On Saturday morning my elderly mother had a massive stroke. The doctors today told me that they will stop treatment now to preserve her dignity and will just make her as comfortable as possible for the next 24 hours. Why is life so hard? This has knocked me sideways. I just can’t see the point anymore. I’m not a danger to myself, I would never do that but I’m giving up on life. I’ll go through the motions from day to day with my memories of my darling wife and mum. I’m sorry if this post is in the wrong category. The void inside of me is now infinitely bigger. I can’t see myself getting over these last 6 months. I’m 56 and I know that when my day finally comes, I’ll meet it with a smile.


Please don’t give up. I lost my partner suddenly at 49, I was 57. It’s the hardest thing we will ever go through. 6 months is no time at all and then to lose your mum, that’s harsh. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. I’m a year on Monday. It takes a long time but there are lighter days ahead.
Keep reaching out on this site, it really does help.

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I lost my partner 7 months ago tomorrow, and like everyone here, have been hanging by a thread
I’ve often thought how would I cope if I was hit by another traumatic event now

I’m so sorry to hear you have to deal with that eventuality :disappointed:

Haven’t any advice really, just I get what you mean about the darkness life suddenly seems to have and just going through the motions

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@CliveH so sorry you are dealing with more heartbreak , my husband died September 2021, and then my brother died 11 months later. I felt like the world was against me ,even though I still don’t think I have grieved for my brother , what makes me feel so guilty , every time I think of him , my loss of my husband is at the forefront of my mind . All we can do is keep on enduring this life we have now and hope eventually it starts to get easier to manage . Your words about when your day finally comes and you will meet it with a smile . So resonates with me , I know exactly what you mean , I feel the same . Xtake carex

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@CliveH so sorry you are having to deal with so much. It’s been nearly 10 months since my husband passed away and it’s been a hard journey but feel I’m making progress. I can’t imagine how hard it must be dealing with a parent as well so soon after losing your wife. Keep chatting on here, there’s always someone willing to listen & chat.

Thank you for your kind words and so sorry for the loss of your husband. I really was starting to get better. I don’t think the longing will ever go but there were little bright spots here and there. Now this - it makes you question the universe as to what have I done wrong? I keep asking that but so far no answer.