My brother died 6 months ago after a short illness. I have tried to reach out but i wasnt ready. I need some help because i feel terrible i cant move forward.
Hello @Tazj ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling like you are struggling to move forward. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to take a look at this Sue Ryder article
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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Thank you
I am struggling with him not being here i was there for his last 2 weeks and we chatted about him going to die. He wasnt ready to die and he was scared in the end i was the one who had to make the decision to switch his life support machine off. He had surgery he would have died either way but its still hard. Ive tried to get counselling but it takes a while. Thanks for the message.
So sorry @Tazj that you are going through this, the fact you had to make the decision to switch his life support machine off must have a huge impact on you, it was so very brave of you to do so, I am not in the best place to help, I have lost a brother but it was a short while after losing my son so my head was all over the place, I am sure there are many people on here that understand your position better and hopefully they will be along to give you support and comfort
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@Tazj so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad a few months ago to an illness. He also told me he was scared, something I have never heard him say or show before. It was hard to comfort him but I did my best and I’ve no doubt you did the same for your brother. The decisions we have to make during these horrid times are so difficult and we can only do our best. You are not alone in your feelings
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Thank you so much for the support and Kind words. I am really glad i found this community. Thank you x
Hello, this is so sad, I’m sorry for your loss. That was a really tough thing you had to do. You were there with him for two weeks at the end, that’s a wonderful thing to be able to do, even though it would have been very difficult.
Since my bereavement I have called the Samaritans quite a few times and found them to be kind and helpful. It could be something that might be helpful while you wait for counselling. Take care x
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8 months now since he has beed gone! This has nearly broken me to the point ive shut everyone out. Im hoping the grief gets easier.