I lost my dad 3 days ago.

Losing a parent
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I lost my dad 3 days ago. He passed away in his sleep suddenly. Im destroyed, he was a sickly man for many years but he he was fine before this and it was so sudden and unexpected. He’d been in A&E 2 days before his death as his oxygen levels had dropped so they wanted to get him checked. They told us he was fine and sent him home. Then he died 2 days later. I just dont understand and feel totally let down by the hospital. :sob:

How could he be fine and then die. He was only 65 and he wanted to live. 4 months ago I had my first child. He adored her. He wanted to see her as much as possible. He was looking forward to watching her when I went back to work.

He barely got any time with her and it hurts. He was so happy when she was around, it’s like it gave him a new purpose in life. I feel guilty for not taking her to him more often. I hate that he wont get to see her grow up.

I miss him so much. It’s also destroying my mum as she’s been with my dad since they were kids. I dont know how to help.

I dont know what to do. Im lost, im scared and im dreading the next steps we have to take. Everything is just to much.

I want my dad back. He should be here not dead. :sob::sob::sob:

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Hi @ElaineR,

Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.

I hope you find the community to be a support to you.
Take good care and keep reaching out :blue_heart:

Alex

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I understand how you feel I’m in the same situation with my mum, she was so happy and healthy looking forward to things in her life and within 2 months she was gone. And all I want is to talk to her and hug her but she not here and I can’t it’s horrible but all I can say is lean on those around you in so sorry for your loss.