My dad died back in July and I’m struggling with the grief so bad…I feel I’m getting signs from my dad he’s still around from dreaming about him, Windows open when I knew I shut them, first one was a Butterfly in August last year…He’s with me all the time I know, I feel his presence in my rooms sometimes, tvs on when I get home (I live on my own so no one else is in the house) does anyone else?
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Sorry to hear about your sad loss. My mam passed away nearly 5 weeks ago. I miss her so much. Me and mam lived together for 60 years. We both liked watching the same TV shows including paranormal shows.
I want to see signs from mam. I want to dream about mam. I know she is at my side. She is bound to be after 60 years. I cannot believe she isn’t here anymore. It is good that you are getting these signs from your dad. It must be comforting. God bless. Stephen
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My Dad was the Best Dad ever, I’m 48 and he taught me everything from Woodwork skills all DIY knowledge to my finances, how to write and use the correct punctuation etc…he died 10.41am on 18th July 2025 with me holding his hand, from Diabetes which is an awful disease in itself it made him have his right leg amputated, loss of independence, made him go blind.
He had Kidney & liver problems resulting in a catheter, but despite his problems he fought right till the end. ( Basically he had no life anymore …..he was confined to a wheel chair 24/7, nurses use to put him to bed at 8pm he was separated from my mum as he had to sleep downstairs)
I helped him the best I could, he was my best friend but when our family were all called to the hospital the Doctors told us he’s got 7 days to live they then gave us 3 options 1) to get him home to die 2) carry on treatment but it will only pre long his death and be painful for him 3) to take him to a hospice.
No one else in the room would speak up so I did as I knew my dad the best and what he would of wanted, we choose option 1 to get him home and die there he suffered enough I said let’s get him home to die….he hated hospitals
I got him home via the ambulance they told me in there they will not resuscitate if his heart stops
But to this day I know I made the right decision. I had the chance to hold his hand whilst he passed which is special but on his death certificate it says he died of liver cancer!!! with complications of Diabetes…….was he suffering in silence and never told anyone, he didn’t eat in the end had delirium and pretended to eat……..
I was employed by him as he had his own business 10 years ago. He taught me many things in life…….i still cry and wonder and hope he didn’t suffer in silence …..the aftermath after the death is all a haze I’d just love to hug him again
Signs will come. Take care dom
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Hello Dom. I am sorry to hear all the suffering that your dad went through. A raw emotional time for you and your family. Your dad sounds a wonderful dad and you a loving son.
What a good decision you made to get your dad back home where his heart and family are. Being with him when he passed is an awful emotional moment, but also at the same time, something special because not everybody gets this chance. I am sure you will continue your dad’s legacy.
My mam had Alzheimer’s. She didn’t pass with it. Because we lived together 60 years, we loved each other greatly and we were always there for each other 24 hours a day.
Mam was in hospital nearly 3 weeks. They said a bowel blockage. They tried to sort it, but couldn’t. I pleaded they operate but because she was 82 years old and had Alzheimer’s, they wouldn’t. In their words: we can keep her comfortable.
We, me and my brother, wanted mam home where she belonged. She came home under palliative care on Friday the 13th of March. I was so pleased she was home. Mam kept asking in the hospital. When can I go home Stephen? It was her 82nd birthday on Saturday the 14th of March. She passed away the following Saturday, the 21st of March at 11.45am. I was sat at her side as I always was. Luckily, my brother arrived at 11.20am. I was on one side and he was on the other. We had mam’s bed in the dining room. I was stroking mam’s hair and her forehead and my brother was holding her hand when her chest stopped moving.
We were glad she was at home, not in hospital. She was a beautiful, smiling, beloved mam. Everybody who met her was instantly taken up with her.
Her funeral was a week ago today. When she was in hospital, I used to be there from 9.00am until 7.00 or 8.00pm at night. I needed to be at her side as I always am at home.
I cry out desperately for her. I don’t know really how I will carry on without her. She was my world. Sending you all my support and best wishes Dom. You know you really did well for your dad as we did for mam. He was and will be proud of you always, just like mam. God bless. Stephen
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