I lost my Dad

Losing a parent
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I lost my Dad to cancer on the 26 th of November, he was 75, it feels too young and so unfair. We were told he had testicular cancer that had spread but it was curable, he had 2 lots of chemo and was really ill, we found out 2 days before he died that the chemo hadn’t worked and there was nothing more they could do, my mum, son, daughter, brother and husband were with him , telling him how much we loved him when he slipped away under sedation. Our worlds have fallen apart, especially my mum, he meant so much to us all and loved us all so much, he was a wonderful man and we can’t imagine going forward without him. I can’t stop worrying and feeling so sorry for my Mum, we are all supporting her every day but she’s so lost and lonely, they were married 54 years and inseparable, they worshipped each other and I feel she doesn’t want to carry on without him

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Hello @Donna13,

Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Please do be gentle with yourself right now - you are grieving too and your loss is so very recent and raw.

I just wanted to share some resources which might be helpful in supporting your mum, as it sounds like you are very worried about her.

  • Watch our Grief Kind classes. Our Grief Kind classes are five short video tutorials in which Sue Ryder bereavement experts talk you through what grief is like and how you can support others who are grieving
  • Listen to our Grief Kind podcasts. Our Grief Kind podcasts are hosted by author, journalist and Sue Ryder ambassador, Clover Stroud. She speaks with celebrities about their personal experiences of bereavement and the support which helped them most when coping with their grief.
  • Read our guide on supporting someone else who has been bereaved.

I hope that you find these resources helpful. Maybe other members whom have lost their husbands may have some thoughts to share, too.

Please take good care of yourself - the community is here for you.

Seaneen