I lost my daughter on the13th of january, she left behind her daughter. Her funeral was friday. My husbands back to work and i am lost… i dont have the motivation to do anything and i just cry… i dont know if i can get through this it just hurts so much… i just dont know what to do…
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You will get through. Take it day by day.
I lost my eldest son in November 8th. He has an 8 year old son.
I still cry nearly every day.
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It hurts so much… even typing this makes me cry. I feel like my joy has gone…
I know.
You’re not alone.
Sending a hug.
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My youngest son died 20 months ago in a sudden car crash no fault of his. He dyed instantly whic I am sort of grateful for as he was a very talented musician and a rock climber ! Check him out on you tube George Greaves a fantastic guitarist! I was the same not wanting to get up, crying all the time soooo hard ! I fell anti calmer now I love to remember all the things we did together all his funny little ways, I talk and tho k snout him ALL the time ! I still get stabs of real
Pain in
My heart but not as much now so it will get easier xxxx we will never be the same as we were before I feel like I’ve lost a limb almost ! My heart is not full ! But I go on he bc would want me to I tell him all about what I’m doing and feel he shares it with me in my heart always 
Take one day even one hour at a time, cry and shout if you want to I still do !
Hugs and love to you xx
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I lost my 31 year old daughter 9 February. I feel like you . Life is so hard I sob all the time . Look at everyone else getting on with life and I can’t . So devastated at her loss I wondering how I will ever learn to live without her .
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I am 7 months into this horrific journey and my new life began. James was 31 when he died of Sudep without warning. He died alone and this will haunt me forever. He died on my watch and i failed him. I relive this everyday and the guilt suffocates me.
I feel lost and afraid trying to navigate my way in the dark. I struggle to remember our life, our times spent together, all the things that i took for granted are gone. My silent scream remains unheard. My life has betrayed me. I feel so desperately sad for James, robbed of future opportunities, no new memories and to feel the love of a family who adored him. I mourn the loss of his future and the wonderful life that he should have had.
Being James mum was the easiest job in the world and his sister Anna was our third gang member. Without doubt, my greatest achievements in life.
I have no idea how i have got to 7 months without you but i have even though i cant comprehend our time apart.
The sleepless nights are the worst, 3am is a lonely place, there is no future at 3am just a life without strength and bravery. I pray that James is safe and happy and doesn’t feel the extreme pain and loneliness that now dominate my life. Our life wasn’t finished, we should have had years together because i still had years to love him.
I look at his beautiful face and know no matter how hard this journey is, i owe it to James to live the life that he has lost. I cant waste it or James dying will have been for nothing. I know James would be my biggest fan and i have to make his life count. 31 years of memories, bear hugs. laughter and endless love will never be forgotten. James will never be forgotten. xx
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Thank you, Laura. You express so beautifully the way I suspect most of us are feeling.
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I’m so sorry we all find ourselves here. My 31 year old daughter died 12 weeks ago and, like you, I can’t motivate myself to do anything. It all seems so pointless and wrong. I don’t want to make new memories that she won’t be part of - I just want to hold on to the old ones where she still lives.
I’ve pushed all my friends away to the point that most of them don’t really bother anymore. My husband (not Cate’s dad - he was killed in 2024) is very stoic and won’t talk about his feelings but I can sense he’s becoming impatient with me just sitting indoors.
My surviving daughter lives in Australia so I rarely see her although we talk most weeks.
Tonight, I’ve just been sitting here without going to bed, thinking about her and how much I don’t want to be here anymore. It’s a very dark and lonely place to be
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Hello @Catesmum,
I can see that you’re new to the community - I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter which brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I also wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also find it helpful to visit The Compassionate Friends who provide support to families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304 or visit their website here. Having read your profile, Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide might also be able to help.
Thank you again for sharing so openly here – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Megan
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Hi I’m new to replying but your post made me think of how I felt 9 years ago tomorrow. We lost our 36 year old daughter very suddenly and sometimes I feel I’m still back in 2016. Other days I can enjoy the sun and the funny antics of our puppy. I found a quote a few weeks ago it said “ I suddenly realised why I wasn’t moving on and why I wasn’t ready to move on because moving on means accepting a life without you and that’s something I’m not ready to do “ .
Be kind to yourself accept how you are feeling it’s perfectly alright to be and feel who you are. Sending hugs and warm thoughts.
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I get it… if you know ,you know…i just wish i didnt, i feel like my lifes been blown wide open…A thought will pass through my mind and just punch me in the stomach and it makes my heart hurt… i honestly never knew i could feel this sad …
My daughters daughter ( my grandaughter - AGED 7) lives with me.shes really struggling , such big emotions and i feel useless because i too am in pieces…
The quote made me cry … its so true, i dont want to think of life without her… she was such a big part of my life. Its been 3 months, the longest 3 months of my life… every day brings its own heart ache.my conservatory is inaccessblec as i cant go through her things, i dont want to get rid of anything… but i cant keepit all…
I just miss her so much…