My husband passed away 3 weeks ago, I don’t have a purpose in life with out him, I am lost, my husband and I did everything together and now it’s just me. I will never get over him.
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Hey , so sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away 3 weeks ago, it does not feel real . Im gutted and miss him so much.
I hope you will be ok x
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So sorry for your loss. Everyone on this site is on the same horrible journey. I lost my husband unexpectedly 4 months ago and I still cry everyday. I am also alone and it is tough, but I try to take one day at a time. Sending hugs your way
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Deb, I’m so sorry that this has happened. My partner passed away suddenly just before Christmas and with him went my whole future. We spent every spare moment together like we were two halves of the same whole. I was absolutely devastated. Just getting up was a nightmare and sleeping even worse. I really felt that my life was over too. That was 11 weeks ago. Funeral over (absolutely perfect even though I say it myself), his birthday over, Valentine’s Day over. And I’m back at work and seeing a lovely life coach. In those really dark days all I wanted was someone to tell me that I could get through it and that there would be a life for me beyond the pain. I did get through. And there is. I’m not saying that it’s all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows but there is a tiny glimmer of hope. I wish you all the very best, you are not alone. Please feel free to private message me if you need to. Take care x
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Hi Arvia
Thank you for replying.
So sorry for your loss, my husband also passed away suddenly in hospital.
We spent every moment together, we were inseparable. We also have a business together building boats, which I can no longer run because he is not here anymore. I can not even go into the workshop because he is everywhere. His cremation is this Thursday which is going to be so hard. My life has change and I don’t know what I am going to do now without him.
X
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Deb. I hear you, and have been the same for very long time, over two years. Agree with you, most of us do not get over our beloved. Everyday I keep him in my heart and still very miserable most of the time. I can just imagine, it must be extremely painful for you now , : ( … I literally felt the physical pain in my heart for very long time…So I send you lots of love and prayer. Please try to take care of yourself now…There are many of us will be here for you. …
@Deb45 My husband passed away on Christmas Eve I feel exactly the same as you, my life has no purpose anymore, I feel lost and a bit frightened. I used to be very outgoing and confident but that is slowly evaporating I literally walk around all day asking myself what is the point. We had our own business that has now gone, friends are kind and say if you need anything etc but I don’t want to be a burden to them. I do have 2 grown up children who have been wonderful even though they have lost their dad suddenly and very unexpectedly but again, they have their lives too. It’s very hard, this site is a great support x
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@Juniper19 Send you lots of hugs… Sorry you feel this way. It is very hard now… I also have experienced being frightened a lot during the first year and half (about), and slowly it lifted. Perhaps it is this very foreign terrain, and our beloved angelizing completely turned everything we know upside down. Now over two years, this fear is much less, it has become: the worst has happened, little is going to scare me now. My brain capacity has been gradually returning may have helped, and I feel more able to defend myself if needed. And I pray a lot…not a church fanatic though. So it seems that our experiences of our grief evolve, and yours would too… XXX
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@ Deb45 I hear you, it is still very early on for you…I was completely in a fog at that point, and it does feel extremely lonely. Feeling lost has been my companion ever since. Over two years on, I am getting more used to it, and care less if people think I am strange. Perhaps the purpose will come at one point… this is what I have read. Like you, I am not sure if I want to get over mine. Love never dies…Keep hanging in…XXX
I am 8 wks now and i still have a sick feeling and dont even want to get up. I just want to be with my husband.
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Avvy, so sorry for your loss. This is a terrible journey that we have been forced to deal with. My husband passed away 4 months ago and I still cry everyday. One thing that has helped me is this site. It allows me to express my feelings instead of holding them in. People say that helps the healing process. Sending hugs your way
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I spent half of my life with him and now he has gone and I don’t know what I am going to do, I feel bad asking friends for help and I feel like a stuck record saying the same things to people. I cannot imagine my life without him. When I go out I say to him you should be with me. All I want is my husband back. I miss him so much it hurts.
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Deb45 …sorry for your loss. I also spent half my life with my hubby. When my darling John passed, part of me died with him. It’s been 4 months and I still cry everyday.
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So So sorry for your loss, I wake up every morning thinking he will come home to then realise he isn’ t, I feel lost and lonely, I feel my life has been ripped apart and I just don’t see a future without him.
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Hi Debbie, I lost my wife on the 12th February, We had been together 42 years, since we were 18, so all our adult life. Like you I just can’t believe this is my new life and I have to go on without her. I know its early days but everything now seems pointless. Funeral is Thursday so very anxious about that. Taking advice from others on this forum and getting through a day at a time. I think that is all we can do for now.
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So sorry for your loss,i lost my husband 3 months ago My thoughts are with you at this sad time .Take care
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The first month is horendous. I cried everyday. The only peace i got was when i was asleep.
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Such a tough day today. The service was lovely and so many nice things said about my darling Karen. I was so pleased I was able to read my eulogy although it was touch and go in parts. Alone now so having a couple of whiskeys before bed and then see what tomorrow brings.
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So sorry for your loss, I lost my wife in July 2022, some days are great, just hang in there, this site has helped me
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sorry for your loss