I lost my husband on 8th December, he was discharged from hospital on the Friday and passed by Sunday morning, i feel like I can’t go on, think I’m much better off with him, i can’t sleep,can’t stop crying, there’s so much on the last to do, all i do is sit in his chair and cry, nothing makes sense anymore.
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Hi @1949,
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband - that is devastating. Your loss is so very recent and raw, and nothing will make sense just now.
It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.
We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
You deserve care and support so please, @1949, get in touch with one of these services.
Take care,
Seaneen
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1949, I am so very sorry that your beloved husband died. I know exactly what you are going through, it is 12 weeks for me today. Been there, done that.
It does get better, just not yet. Please read the thread “Two weeks of Widowhood” where you will see how several of us have made it thus far and the stages we have gone through to get where we are today which is functioning in the fog. We’ve all come a long way from the first days and you may be comforted knowing that what you are feeling is normal and the process of grief is quite universal.
For now, cry your heart out, feed yourself and any living thing dependent on you, pay the bills and sleep when you can.
Much love.
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i am so sorry for your loss i lost my husband of 47 years 7 months ago and its so hard but we keep going because like yourself we want to be with them but we try to live the life they lost it takes a long time and we will miss our loved ones always but trust me you will get their one minute or one hour at a time thats the best you can do just now so my thoughts are with you
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Grandkids, we have no choice but to slog through and learn to live without our loved one. It is so difficult when our entire world - our husband - and our life as we knew it simply ends. Nothing is the same, nor will it be. We are not the same person either.
Step-by step, hour by hour. It is the best I can do. So far, it has worked for 12 weeks.
I can now see a bit through the fog, it is no longer a solid wall.
Much love.
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