I lost my husband in June . I need some advice please
I need some support please
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Hi I lost my husband in July so I know how difficult it is, you will find lots of help and support here just say how you are feeling we all understand.
We were married for 55 years . Miss him so much .
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So sorry for your loss. Everyone here knows how hard it is to lose your other half. Take care of yourself.
We got to 52 years he died 10 days after our anniversary.
We had been together 46 years, married for 24 but it doesn’t matter how long - it is still a loss. Cancer took my Jon so fast that there was no chance or time to really talk or process what was happening. It is 14 weeks today …. 
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We are all going through the grief journey, all of us with different circumstances. My husband died very suddenly of a massive heart attack and I struggle to deal with the suddenness of it. Being told he had died was the worst moment in my life. I have taken all offers of support, had lots of meals made for me, been taken out by friends and family and I have tried to keep myself busy. I have had a little hiccup today as a song on the radio triggered me, but I am now just thinking about today , that I will enjoy watching strictly and can have a nice bath before bed. I am sending a hug x
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I don’t get things like people making me meals or checking on me much . Just my two sister in laws . My so just gives me verbal abuse , blaming me for not being there when my husband died . I was never offered to visit him in hospital the night before he died . I suffer bad anxiety & sore legs . I’m on meds & can’t drive but he never offers to take me anywhere . He says cruel things to me . I v told him he makes me nervous but he just laughs & shakes his head . He keeps on about the time he sat with his dad before he died . I just don’t understand him . When I tell him to stop going on about me not being well . He says I’m just looking for pity . My husband died in June & my son just keeps going on about what he did , organised the funeral etc . I don’t feel I want him to visit so I told him to go . He just stormed out . He is going to be 50 next month & he’s acting like a child . I love him but not his attitude . Sorry for the moan but I just have to get if off my chest . I’m shaking with nerves . Thank you for listening to me . You are so lucky to have a good family & friends . Sorry again for my rant . 
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I’m so sorry to read about the attitude of your son. That must be very hard for you. I’m glad you have 2 helpful sisters in law. It sounds as if your son can’t cope with his own feelings and emotions. Its good that you can separate him from his actions. You love him but not his attitude. I hope that he will calm down. Its not fair on you.
My husband died suddenly in May. It is still very raw. I keep getting sudden realisations over and over again that he can’t come back. The reality is so painful. We were married over 45 years.
I don’t drive now and have to sell his car (also his boat) These practical things make me anxious and nervous too.
Keep posting to get things off your chest. You’re not alone.
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Is he looking for praise for doing the things required for his father’s funeral? Tell him he did a great job and thank him for taking that burden from you and that he is a good son and a good man.
Is he traumatized by being at his dying father’s side in the hospital? Mad that he had no one to lean on?
Is he trying to make you feel bad for not being at your husband’s side in the hospital when you have no way to get there?
I can not understand this behavior. Some of us, like you, have wonderful sisters-in-law. They come to the rescue.
I am sorry your son is causing you anxiety, you have enough on your plate without that nonsense.
Love.
Thank you for understanding . He’s not giving me any support . Keeps verbally abusing me & bullying . Iv told me to go because he’s making my anxiety worse . Not he’d a txt or call for two weeks . He’s so stubborn . I can’t take anymore of his treatment . 
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It does not sound like stubborness, it sounds just plain mean and selfish. I am so sorry.
So sorry for your loss ….
We are all in the same sad boat on here…some further along this journey than others …but we’re all suffering and we all understand how you feel and how hard it is….
I hope you find the support you need on here…it is helping me no end. Everyone here will do what they can to help and support each other.
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You have to think of yourself and your own wellbeing,he is bang out of order treating you like that.You have to ban him for a while for your own sanity.Am sending you a hug.
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Thank you . It’s very hurtful . I don’t hear from him for two weeks . No txt , nothing . He’ll be huffing. He’s very stubborn . I got nervous when he used to come round . I told him that but he just says that I just don’t like hearing the truth. He always turns it around to blame me . I can’t put up with anymore of his attitude . I’m suffering bad anxiety & he’s making it worse. I just can’t win with him. He’s nearly 50 years old but acting like a baby . If he comes round , I’m just going to be very quiet. No arguing. Im fed of his behaviour . Thank you again for getting in touch . 
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