Im really not coping and struggling with losing my mum. We was very close and in my mind im finding it hard to adjust and accept that shes gone. Its left a big hole in my life and i dont know how to fill the hole.
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Sorry to hear about your Mum. I lost my Mum is June. I totally get how you are feeling. There is a massive hole in my life and heart. I miss her so much. It’s still early days for you and for me. When you are very close it’s hurts so much because you loved them. I don’t really have much advice but you are not alone. There are lots of us on here that have lost our Mums xx
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Hi lujo, Sorry to hear you lost your mum to,and its ok that you don’t have much advice to give me. I’m glad that im not alone though. People tell me that overtime it will get easier. But with it being only recently I’m still yet to believe that. And people always say try and think positive, like think about all the good times and laughs we had together. And not try to think about what we never got to do together. I try to think positive but then the negative ends up creeping in. Ive tried to find grief counselling and not had much luck as most of them you have to pay for, and its having the money. So i came across this site and thought i would give it a go.
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I have a friend who lost her Mum 5 years ago and she said it does get easier. It hard not to think what we are missing out on. I constantly feel sad she will never see my boys grow up. We will never forget our Mums and I think I will always miss her no matter what.
It’s so hard - you try to be positive and carry on and then it hits again.
I have been offered bereavement counseling through the hospice who provided palliative care to my Mum. I think Sue Ryder offer bereavement counselling.
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Hi all ,
I feel your pain , i lost my mum when i was 21 ,she was 41, i had just had my first child, her first grandchild .I was totally numb and shut all the grief away , until in January of 2024 , i lost my sister age 59 , to the same disease , that took my mum , her mum age 51 , her dad age 44 and now my lovely sister , all cancer .
I finally got help , firstly through Sue Ryder bereavement counselling, which was amazing , i finally got the courage to open up and speak about my grief and then i got help from my GP , anti depressant.
Its still raw and i miss them all every day , i take one day at a time and think of 1 positive thing a day about them all .
I also have faith and believe i will see them all again .
I believe its important to talk about our feelings , to a trusted friend or a family member and try counselling and see if it works for you .
Keep posting and love to all
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Hi Lujo, i completely understand everything you have said, your right, we will never forget our mums. And sometimes yes it is hard to try and be positive and carry on. As it just creeps in and hits you out the blue. Im so sorry your mum will never see your boys grow up. My mum got to see.my 2 children grow up. I will always miss my mum to no matter what. Its my birthday next month i turn 50 and i just wish that she was still here to celebrate it with us all. My mum used to always ring me every year on my birthday and sing happy birthday to me. And im going to miss that and plus its my mums birthday coming up this year 18th December that is going to be a hard day to. Everyday is hard, im so glad that you have been offered breavment counselling and i hope it works for you. Im also starting breavment counselling myself my first appointment is this Tuesday.