In December I lost my mum . I lived around corner and seen her everyday she was my best friend. When my world fell apart she was always there . Now she’s gone and the world is frightening I miss my mum. I always struggled to express and show love when my mum became ill I finally built up ability to hug her and tell her I loved her and she best mother I could ask for . Her death was unexpected and sudden and seems whole world moved on and forgot her already while Im left alone begging god to give me my mum back. How do you stop the pain and how do you carry on when only person in the world who made you feel safe and loved is gone ?
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Hi @Dave86
I’m so sorry you lost your dear mum. It sounds like you were very close. I’m glad you were able to tell her how much she meant to you. It’s still early days for you. All the feelings you describe are normal. It does hurt and that is understandable. Try to look after yourself as best as you can eat, drink and sleep when you can. It is hard to have these feelings but sit with them they are normal and get through each day as best as you can. I’m glad you reached out to this forum. People understand as we are all here because we have lost someone we love. Keep posting as people will support you 
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Hi Dave. I also lost my mum in December. I totally get that feeling of losing the only person who really knew you, kept you safe and felt like home. I’m feeling really lost at the moment too. I guess it’s just taking it a day at a time. Sometimes the grief is too much and you need to let it out. Other times you might be able to distract yourself slightly. I’m just hoping somewhere along the line it becomes a bit easier to bear.
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Hi dave and bach
I lost my mum 17 months ago and im still struggling 
she was my rock and best friend. She was always there when I was down or there to cheer me up. I do get better days when im busy and working. When im on my own I struggle, my dad has parkinsons and Is in a nursing home which I feel extremely guilty about as he hates it there. My mum also died unexpectedly! Its very tuff,sending you hugs 
xx
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Today everything got even more bizarre I attended rheumatology appointment in rvh and my doctor ended up being one of the doctors who treated my mum in the mater hospital. Everything seems very upside down like bizarre land. Maybe everything is a bad dream maybe I’m just waiting to wake up. I know I sound like a crybaby I just really want my mum back .
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Not at all- I’ve lived alone for years and can normally cope with life fine but all I want at the moment is my mum. I can’t even do simple things like go to the dentist without breaking down and I get overwhelmed really easily. Be kind to yourself- it’s all part of the profound grief you’re feeling.
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Your griefing its okay to feel like that, talking helps I find that on here. 
I talk to my mum all the time now, at first I found it to hard because I just couldn’t except she was gone! But shes not shes here in spirt with me always xx
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I am also really finding everything hard since my mum died on 16/1. It’s so difficult as I have two daughters 13 and 16 who need me, but I feel so detached from the world. I just want to feel better , I’m trying very hard. Having counselling and hypnotherapy and upped my anti anxiety meds but nothing seems to work at the moment. This is such a good website though, so nice to be able to talk to people who can relate.
Hi ems, so sorry to hear about your mum, I know exactly how you feel, you are probably still very numb and just going through the motions! I was like that for the first year! My mum passed 17months ago. I went through an angry stage cuz she died suddenly and a guilty stage now for feeling I could of done more to prevent this.
I think we learn to live with it, i get better days than others. Sending hugs hear if you need to chat xx
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