my step dad died last year in July when I was 17 and everything has been really weird before he died we knew he was gonna die because he had a condition called idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis and there is no cure for that and I was next to him and all our family were there when he passed and it’s all really surreal still even though it’s close to being a year since he died it feels like it was just yesterday. I’ve been really bothered about everything college, work and just my family in general but I feel selfish for having the feeling of they can say they know how I feel but do they really know? My step-dad was like my dad a real dad he basically taught me how a real dad should act even though my dad is still in my life. I just really miss him a lot of first are happening this year it was my 18th birthday and he wasn’t there and it was really hard, his anniversary and birthday are coming up in July and also in July we’re going on holiday to the place me my mum and him last went on a holiday as a week later he was taken to the hospital. I keep getting told my grief is just my hormones but I know the difference and I just feel really shit and that none of my friends really understand the feeling and I feel guilty a lot of the time bringing my step dad up around them but he literally raised me for 10 years and was living with us and then suddenly he’s not there and it’s a weird feeling of I’m waiting for him to come back? I’m not sure what to do anymore
Hello @Rubyrose11,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your stepdad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You mentioned your stepdad was like your dad, you might also want to look at Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex