My Dad passed away on the 21st October. I was with him holding his hand until the end. I miss him so much, we were so close seeing each other every other day and texting or calling in between. I have no other family except my 13 year old son, and we both feel incredibly lost without him. One minute I’m numb, the next minute I’m sobbing. I’m back to work on slightly reduced hours (8-3) which is a slight distraction but I just feel in a mess with nobody to talk to who understands.
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Hello @Loziix ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling lost. I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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Im sorry for your loss. I feel for you, I really do.
Try and focus on your boy, hes at a tough age, he will soon be facing mocks, school will be getting massively harder.
I have a 15yr old daughter, Ive lost both my Dad and step-dad in the same month, I know what you’re going through.
I started planning small things, days, weeks and months in the future to give us some things to look forward to. Days out, even if its the local car boot sale, then we booked a holiday to Athens for a week.
You may not feel that you can do the above, but try and find things you can do, your own ways to cope.
No-one, not even someone that has been through similar things knows what its like to be you. Everyone is different and deals with things differently, there is no ‘normal’ way to deal with losing your Dad. Cry if you need to, cry all day if you have to, all week of you feel the need, theres nothing wrong with this.
Being a Dad with a daughter, I can tell you that if he was half as close to his daughter as I am to mine, your Dad loved you with every fibre of his being and he would only want the best for you and your boy. He wouldnt want you to grieve, he would want you to live, to be happy.
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I lost my Dad almost a year ago. I always miss him but some days more than others. Today is a bad day for reasons I’m not sure of. I know he loved me more than anything and would want the best for me. I just want to thank @DeanAnt for reminding me of this. Like @Loziix I have very little family left, just my Mum and husband. The world is a lonely place and I empathise. Sometimes we just need to snuggle with a blanket and comforting things to remind ourselves that the world hasn’t ended. There are some nice, good things out there, just hard to see them sometimes