Apologies for disappeering I needed to take a bit of time.
After a horrible horrible easter i realised I needed some help i was in a state of constant anxiety so finally spoke to my GP. I have been described with some medication to help with that and advisement to seek counseling.
The tablets have helped at least with keeping the anxeity at bay but I know I dont want to take them long term so i have applied for counselling, no idea when that will be.
The last two weeks or so have been fairly full on, we buried my mum ashes at the cemetery in her home town and mine as well. I think that has helped somewhat as i know have somewhere to go to be with her. Luckily this cemetery is near a good friends house so i have somewhere to go and have a talk and good cry afterwards.
I went for a small trip away over the may day bank holiday. My birthday is on the 1st so the above friend and I went to Brighton, was nice but felt some guilt and lots of sadness over it. Me and my mum were supposed to have been taking a trip away this year for my Birthday and it was one of the last things i talked to her about before everything fell apart around me.
I have been feeling up and until this point that i was feeling like Mum was around, she was a big believer of signs. And on the day of the interment and that weekend there seemed to be a robin constantly around in my friends garden. And on the trip to Brighton I saw them constructing a bunch of tents for a event coming up, one of the tents said Tivoli which is meaningfully to me, there is Tivoli amusements in the town my mum lived, she loved taking us and the grandkids to amusements. But it is also the name of a Holiday cottage we stayed in years ago, so it could be a coiendence but it did feel like she was saying hello.
I came back on the 2nd but that is the day i feel like my whole world has fallen out from me again.
My sister was supplied the Full medical report which we have been waiting on for 3 months, I had always felt that something didnât feel about my Mums Death but I just thought it was me not accepting and reading to much into the information we had so far.
The report confirmed my worse fears and it seems my sisters as well.
The hospital will never come out and say it fully because it will open them up to greater liability but basically the confirmed it is more than likely my mum died due to mistakes, not checking test results, missing early signs of issues she was having and so forth. So it seems Mum was the unfortunate victim of Medical negligence.
As you can imagine this has had affected me so much, I am so angry at the hospital and also cant keep playing through my head that my Mum should be alive right now. I also know elements I hadnt know from the start like her exact time of death and what happened leading up to it.
So it feels like I am back to the early days with some of this because i didnt have that info then so I am starting a part of the grief again or a new part becaue I was missing information at that time.
We have some tough decisions to make coming up, we have had earlier discussions with a law firm about seeing if we have a case. We dont want money from it, but we know we cant let them get away with it, for us we want a proper heartfelt apology and also we want to ensure this never happens to someone else. That is the hardest one for me, the hospital involved is already well known for having issues in the Maternity department but it seems the issues are wided spread. And from what I know they dont want to acknowledge or make changes without press involvement.
So we have a situation brewing that the only way to get the changes is to go to the press but we dont want to do that because we dont want Mums memories and life to be picked apart by strangers.