My mum died in July and we have the funeral next week, but I miss her terribly. I visited her every day and took her out for lunch most weeks. The hospital messed up and I have complained, now my brother has shut me out of doing the executor things, even though we are joint. He rarely saw her but has come in and pushed me out. Everything is too upsetting to deal with and I am heartbroken.
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Hello @Lynne58,
I’m Seaneen, and I’m glad you have found the community, but so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here. It sounds like you had such a special relationship.
Unfortunately, the death of a loved one can create family tensions - it is a topic that has been discussed often by our members here. Hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
I just wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Oh sweetheart. These first weeks are so raw as we begin to face a new reality.
I joined the losing a parent forum when i lost my parents at Christmas. It was an absolute godsend.
Be kind to yourself and we are all here to support you
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Thank you. xx
Hi, sorry for the loss of your Mum, so very recently. Expect everything to feel upside down for a while as you process your loss. As joint Executors you’ll have to be consulted and make decisions together, signing documents jointly. Just tell your brother how you feel, maybe he is trying to spare you the upset? I’m the sole Executor for my late mother’s estate and seven months on it’s still not over as her house sale isn’t yet complete. Grief is so hard, be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. Best wishes xx
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