17 days he has been gone and im truly not coping. Constant crying from deep within, feel sick, no appetite, my heart literally feels broken. I don’t think im strong enough to carry this pain.
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Hi Paula, I sorry about your husband. 17 days after my wife had died everything was just pain, most of the first two months was constant crying. I think things were easier after that I would have a lot more days where the tears didn’t bring total despair. Now after four months I have some days which are normal and then some black days often the weekends. Walking and exercise helps, attending bereavement groups and posting on this site are also beneficial.
You need to look after yourself, I hope you have support from friends and family. It’s important to eat if you really find that difficult I would speak to GP and ask for help.
Wishing you all the strength you need
All the best
Tom
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Dear Paula
I’m sorry that you have joined us here in the group no one wants to join. We have all lived the nightmare you are now living.
Like Tom says, for now try to look after yourself. Eat a little, remember to drink and sleep when you can. Trying not to think about the future helped me. It really is one day, hour or minute at a time. Deal with only what you have to and ask for help. I hope you have family and friends around to support you.
Things do get a little easier but slowly. We will always miss them terribly but you do learn to move forward a bit at a time.
When I first joined this group I read old posts on what was worrying me. There some very kind, knowledgeable people here who will be along to offer advice and support should you want to ask anything. Please keep posting, everyone here understands.
Take care, Helen x
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Paula26 I am also sorry that you have had to join us on this journey. Try to get into a routine of activities that keep you occupied, as Tom has suggested bereavement meetings have been a great comfort to me, they are not unhappy places more a meeting of friends who understand and are willing to talk about difficult subjects but only if you want to. Also they have led on to new activities. This site is still a great help to me and although we are not
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Sorry I had not finished. Although we are all completely anonymous on this site I have got to know people as friends with similar struggles.
Tony
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I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling . Its four months for me and I still cant believe its real. Nothing lessens it right now. I just get up every day and do what I can. Keep family and friends close,ask for and accept help as much as you can ,Im afraid it just an hour at a time. I wish you some peace
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Dear Paula, am so sorry for your loss. That’s exactly how I felt two weeks after the love of my life died suddenly of a heart attack. I still don’t know how to carry this pain but now I am able to sleep and eat and not to cry all day long. Please look after yourself, try to drink lots of water, ask your GP to give you something to help you sleep - otherwise try something like nytol (that’s what works for me). Sending you a big hug
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I am so sorry for your loss too,its just so so sad. Im glad your sleeping better . I know everyone’s grief is different but how long ago did your husband pass before you began to sleep better and eat better. Im so exhausted but cant get to sleep. I feel I have no purpose.
Xxx its so so hard
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Hi Paula,
I started sleeping better after a couple of weeks but I take beta blockers that the GP prescribed and nytol.