Dear reader
I’ve joined this to find an answer I keep being told there isn’t one but I beg of you this pain is unbearable…
It’s just me and mum , no other family just us we love eachother so so much she’s been given little of few months they said for her to live as the cancer has progressed and there is nothing else we can do
I can’t bare this pain losing my mum and the thought of being without her I cannot imagine
I do not have kids or anything to live for
I just want someone to tell me how to do this but nobody can
I’m hoping someone can tell me they know how I feel or can guide me on how to do this
Will it really get easier I can’t be without her I’ve known nothing else
Please 
I’ve just signed up so bare with me if you reply or comment and I thank you in advance for your help !!
Bless you
And I’m sorry for your pain aswel
Xxx
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Just wanted to let you know that no-one can tell you how to do deal with it but do it in your own way, try talking to your doctor how you feel.
I understand, i lost my beloved husband on 23rd November to cancer, we only had 4 weeks from the diagnosis, 13th November we were told there was nothing they could do and he was too weak for chemo. He was moved to a hospice on the 19th November and passed away 23rd.
We were together 22 years.
If you need to talk i understand what you are going through.
Poppet ,
Thank you for replying to me it’s so unbelievably painful I just don’t know how I’ll do this , we are all well have and I’m going to be in this world with no mum I can’t bare the thought
I am truly sorry about your husband sweetheart my goodness!
Truly incredibly painful
Stupid question to ask, but How are you doing?
Thank you for your message and I’m here to talk to too
Xx
I tell family and friends im ok, but truthfully i feel like im drowning and theres no lifeboat, i struggling without him and my heart is broken. I miss him everyday. I just want him back.
He had just celebrated his 50th birthday in June and our 22nd wedding anniversary in October .
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Hi. MissToniNicole,
There is nothing you can do except take each day at a time. Don’t plan too much. Just get through and survive each day.
Take any help you can from any family and friends that you trust. Put your own wellbeing first. Look after your health and much as you can. Eat and sleep whenever you want to. There’s no set rules. Do everything cat your own pace
Keep posting on here because people on here are doing lovely and you will find this fire is a wonderful support group especially in your darkest hours.
I thought when my mum passed I would never get through it and didn’t even get out of bed for months unless it was to sort something out to go with mum’s passing. I didn’t wash eat or dress for weeks. But eventually I started to cope by setting myself small targets each day. Can you believe one of mine was to get up ,go downstairs and make a cup of tea. Looking back I feel like crying just writing this.
The sadness never goes away. The longing and wishing they were still here never goes away and grief never goes away and I don’t want it to. I am learning to live with it alongside m
I talk to mums photos. I still have her ashes and I have them in the bedroom she used to sleep in when she came to my house. I go in there most days and have what I call quiet time with mum. I love just being on my own with her and our beautiful memories.
Keep reaching out to people on here. This site was and still is my lifesaver
Sending so much love to you.
Deborah
Your life will enter a new chapter and you have a chance now to envisage what that might be like, before you get caught up in her last weeks and days. It’s not disloyal to your mum to do that, she wants you to be happy. Think about something you could do to make a legacy for her. Maybe take a few days away alone to hike or something, just to get used to that feeling and that you can cope.
Sending hugs
8th June im going to watch my son do the race for life in honour of his dad, ive never gone out yet for more than hour before wanting to come home.
I need to do this for his dad and its going to be hard to spend a full day in front of all these people knowing that his dad is not going to be there cheering on beside me.
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