Hi all, I don’t know if anyone has any advice, my partner died on the 27 December. He was 35 and Italian, his name was Blaise, his father named him after the mathematician Blaise Pascal… nope, I hadn’t heard of him either.
I am living with him mother at the moment in Italy, she is wonderful and I love very much, she doesn’t speak a word of English, fortunately my Italian is okay. I am trying to support her the best I can, but I am in the final year of my degree in the UK. I have asked if I can defer for a year, but as we were not married/civil partnership he doesn’t count as family so they are saying no.
I am also only allowed to stay in Italy for 90 days without a visa, and again because no legal partnership it’s a no go. I am going to speak to someone at the Embassy on Friday but they told me not build my hopes up.
I feel like I’m in hell and everyone is making it as hard as possible, and I fear for his mother if she’s on her own. I am so exhausted and I don’t feel I can keep fighting anymore.
Thinking of all of you suffering out there. Take care. 
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You do sound exhausted, @JonnyBadger. Please do try and put your own mind first, you are important and deserve support. It sounds like you need some specialist advice regarding your status there - I hope the embassy are helpful.
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Thank you, I am so exhausted, it doesn’t help that I have to go (from where I am, which comes under Florence), up to Milan, and stay in the apartment where he died, I also have to collect the rest of his things (fortunately he did not have much yet as he just moved in).
I am so tired and stressed, yet everything is on a deadline and no one seems to care, that’s why I’m here. I feel like the is no precedent for this and I’m just being sent round in circles. I want a day off, and please don’t hate me for this, from his mom. I love her dearly, but I need a break from being strong for her, because I don’t feel it.
It’s just good that I can come her and write what I feel, and quite frankly, in English, don’t get me wrong, I love the Italian language, but having to translate everything is tiresome.
Anyway thank you so much, it does help being able to write because you can take your time and think about what you put, it probably still makes no sense to anybody else, but still. 
Take care everyone, love and hugs to you.
Ciao!
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