Thank you. I am feeling emotionally disconnected from everything and everyone
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So sorry
You donāt deserve this
X x
@littlewitch Thatās really mean of them all, Iām not surprised that you feel as you do. We need to be our own best friends nowadays. X
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I am over it now. We (my son and I) have our family liaison officers coming over tomorrow to go through the coroners report before the inquest hearing. My son has had the report via email for almost 2 weeks but i havent read it as i am not ready, i think this will be me actually accepting that he is not ever coming back. At present i hope every day that he will walk through the door and its all been a dream. Any advice on what I should do? I dont know whether to bite the bullet and rrad through it or qait for the officers to come over and go through it. I think that the reason i was so low at the weekend is because the inquest is coming up. It will be exactly 6 months since the accident the day of the inquest.
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Hi,
I donāt think anyone can give you advice on what you should do only what they would do,for me I would have to read it on my own and breakdown accordingly,I personally find it more painful to breakdown in front of others,thatās just my reasoning,
Do whatās best for you,I wish you all the very best whatever your choice,
Sending you strength Ron.
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I will be thinking of you
I hope it brings you some closure and some peace x x
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I have āMADEā myself go to places we use to go , and that was very difficult I wonāt lie, but I will make myself try again! Going to places we havenāt been is easier , but still hard as we planned them together , Nick died suddenly of heart attack on 15th April , we had things booked for this year and even next year, I have cancelled our wedding anniversary hol in st ives in September, we loved that place I just canāt do that one .x
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Willow 112
Hi , you are definitely not the odd one out at all , I have been exactly the same since I lost my precious son 8 1/2 months ago I canāt look at pictures , all his things in his room , songs that remind me of him places we used to go . My counsellor told me that is all perfectly normal for some people who are grieving, itās how you cope a little better avoiding places pictures etc , so there isnāt anything wrong in how your grieving, because you loved him so much itās hurting so much ā¦
and to try to get through each day as hard and painful as it is , we avoid what will tip us over the edge ā¦ itās so difficult to know what we feel is ok / normal , we are all so different love , to me you sound like you are doing well under the circumstances and finding new places to go and living each day as best you can , as I know how difficult it is xx
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Willow 112 ā¦ have you had any counselling ? That might help you understand how you are thinking things you are doing or avoiding 
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No, I havenāt had counselling. I had it when my daughter was born with disabilities. Unasked for, it was part of the diagnosis/prognosis appointments. I did not find it at all helpful. Maybe bereavement counselling is different.
Xx
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I personally believe we are all our own best counsellors. Only we can feel what we feel and deal with it all in our own way. There is no one fit all counsellor and no tailor made one either but thatās just my view as I know many who have said they have benefited from seeing one. The only people that have helped me are only those that have experienced the loss of their husband
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@Willow112 I think what you describe makes sense. Some people take comfort in looking at photos of their loved one, for others they canāt bear it. I think both responses are normal and please donāt beat yourself up or worry youāre doing it wrong. Itās still very raw. I lost my ex partner and have found comfort in looking at photos of him, though I can get upset. I know him mum canāt bear to look at pictures of him. Everyone copes in different ways. X
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I havent posted anything for a few weeks, i have had an wmpty feeling inside me, i just zone out and stare into space. I have never had this feeling before ever. Is it part of the grieving process. I cant describe it