Hi @Vancouver thank you for this, so heart warming. Im still new to this life i dont want to be in, learning to live without my mark. But you have given me some hope. Thank you and bless you
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Thank you. I too am starting to realise that life is beautiful and learning h to live my life for my lovely darling boy after 63 years together
Your thoughts inspire. Bless you
Lynne
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Lovely one strong sole one strong person Vancouver xx finding it hard today 7 months tina left for another world xx just struggling today xx love reading what you all been up too xx
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Hello my dear @Debscolli - I hope you are having a better day today. The hours can creep by, canāt they?
Thank you for your message - we travel together, all of us, on here - making our way through this strange, unwanted, new found land - where no maps exist. We find strength in each otherās company and learn from each other as we go.
Thank you for walking with me - and keep going - you are doing really well.
Loads of love,
Your friend,
Vancouver xx
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oh @Martin2 - I am so sorry you are missing Tina so badly - it is very hard, isnāt it?
Hang on and hold tight today - keep going. I know these difficult days are the ones that crawl by and last the longest. It will ease a bit soon, just keep heading forward. Each step we take carries us closer to those we have loved and lost - so the energy involved, though draining, is so worth it.
Loads of love,
Vancouver x
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Bless you, too, @Babes1 - I am so glad things are getting a wee bit better for you - keep going, keep doing all you are doing 
loads of love,
Vancouver x
When I first found this site (on the very night after Alan passed away and in the depths of despair) I remember reading your posts and feeling that someone was there for me. Someone further along the dark road of grief. And I found enormous strength and encouragement both then and during those early, sad days. Fast forward to now and, after an awful lot of soul searching and digging deep, Iām learning to embrace my new life. The foundations are in place and I wake up (yes, Iām sleeping again) excited to begin each day. Unfortunately I have had a difficult diagnosis myself recently but I know that I have the strength to cope. Iām stronger than I ever dreamt and, actually, I really like the person I have become. I have even started to spend time with a lovely person who also lost his partner and that is wonderful (unbelievable but nevertheless wonderful) too.
So, thank-you Vancouver and everyone else in this lovely, supportive community for guiding and supporting me through my darkest days and helping me see the sun again. I hope that perhaps this short message will help to reassure those in the dark days of despair and I send all my love x
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@Ginger68 im 3 days in and feels like life will never be the same again. So much to sort and so much to do. I dread the nights im trying not to drink as i know thats not the answer jist trying to keep busy know i need to sort myself out but whats the point and who cares anyway
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Take your time, it really is one tiny step at a time! I think we all try to grapse anything to make us feel better but literally, there is nothing other than time, and letting these truly dreadful feelings come and go, remembering to breathe, and acknowledging the pain and anguish. Not sure if you are in Facebook but I have found the page āSurviving Griefā which is very well-written and insightful. Iāve found it very poignant, still no answers but a good perspective. Sending you lots of love and strength xx
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Wonderful 
This year was the first year without my Mum on her Birthday
My Brother and I still took flowers and a Birthday card as we have always done but this year to my Mums grave
I know itās not the same but we had comfort
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Thankyou so much
I will take a look
Sending hugs x