My husband made wonderful cartridges for hi fi systems. We used to listen to music together all the time. Now I wonder if I shall ever be able to bear to listen again.
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Thatās interesting, what a wonderful thing to be involved in. I guess he brought happiness to many people through the music they could play through his skill.
My husband and I used to have music through the house every day. I hardly listened to any music since his death but the funeral reminded me that it can take you away for a minute or two when you find a certain song so I hope to try harder with music again soon. My husband had made my brother a Cd I didnt know about and my brother gave that to me since his death, it has a lot of his favourites (that became special to me too) but I couldnāt bear to try that one yet.
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So sorry for your loss
No destination thats how i feel 5 months on i thought i was doing ok but not at the moment i.have no idea what i want to do at the moment and feel lost but i guess none of us know where we are going we all know our lives can change in the blink of an eye x
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Fleur
Dont read the report yourself but if you want to know the contents, as I did with my mum, my partner read me the main points without going into detail.
I will keep the report but never read it myself. However Iām glad I know the findings. It has helped me x
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@C1971 thanks a lot for the advice . Does your partner know if there are pictures of the deceased in the report? Iām not sure who I can burden or trust to read it and tell me the main points but will try to think of someone. thanks again for this good advise, I really appreciate it as its been on my mind and I have been close to just opening it myself a couple of times but thatās prob not a good idea.
Fleur
There were no photos. Definitely dont read it.
I really hope you can find someone as I found out things about my mum which we had no idea about. Even her. But it really helped me to accept why she died
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Fluer can you ask your dr to read it for you. Asking them to just tell you the necessary parts.
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thank you both xxxx
Good idea jooles. I was going to say that too x
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@Natasha Hi Natasha, my experience is very similar, I lost my Daz 46 to a brain hem/stroke, held him in my arms waiting for the ambulance but he never regained consciousness when in hospital. I take comfort that I was with him when it happened and he was confused, trying to talk, I reply it in my head alot.
Itās 5 months now since it happened and I am definitely finding it harder as I finally try to face the truth. I think I have been in denile, and have definitely been distracting myself with anything I can e.g fitness (lost 2 1/2 stone) decorating (pretty much done the whole house), work ( didnāt take much time off which again in hindsight was a distraction strategy and my way of coping) I did read a really good book called Young Hot Widows which made me laugh and cry, might be worth a read xx
Thank you for reading me!
Thank you so much for the recommendations, im so sorry for your lost too!
im sorry you are feeling the same way, i know its hard
Thanks for reading and answering me, without a doubt it is something very difficult to explain, a pain so deep that no one would ever understand unless they have lived the same thing, but I tell you something ā¦ although the days have been getting worse in the sense of missing you I promise that you will see beautiful signs that only you will understand, it is a magic that I do not know how to explain it, it does not last long but they are amazing, and they will calm you down, the love of my life sends me hummingbirds and I know that is his sign . I am currently looking for help for my post-traumatic stress, and it has not been easy, but you have to give your best to make them feel proud and above all to strengthen yourself as a human being, nothing extraordinary comes easy. And remember, one day, one moment at a time
i know whata you mean ,
Hi John, thanks for reading and writing, I want to ask you, when was the first time you felt yourself? that life was not so hard and that you can really continue without feeling that everything is an effort? do you think one can be happy again? I ask you because I know you have more time on this, and what better than someone who lived something similar
Hi Natasha, really sorry for your loss. My husband was fit and healthy and only 39 years old. He had a sudden heart attack on the before in the early morning. My love would never thing it would happen to him. It was so fast , I did the CPR while explaining to our son what happened ( he says when daddy wakes up I need to tell him something but he never woje up) but did it work? Did not think so. I can not forget Andyās face calm , trying to cuddle me to put his arm around me and suddenly his right hand stayed in the air making noise like someone is strangling him and bang on the bed. His eyes rolked up, his tongueā¦i am shocked, panicā¦since then I am heratbroken and sad. Nearly 7 months passed and still can not believe that happened to our lovely family xx
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