I’m just past the eighteen month since losing my wonderful husband. He had been unwell for a long time before he passed away.
In the last twelve months my heath has been declining. I’ve seen my GP more times than I ever had before. I’m now under two different consultants.
I don’t know whether looking after him was my main concern and I just ignored my symptoms, or if lossing him and the grief has brought this all on.
Even my daughter jokes, are you trying to catch up with dad.
Does anyone else feel their health has declined.
Debbie X
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My anxiety has become worse. X
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Hi @Nel, I can understand that, I think our self confidence goes when you don’t have your partner to share everyday worries with and that leads to anxiety. X
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Debbie I believe you are right.
I have gone downhill physically and mentally since losing my husband 9 months ago.
I feel like I have aged 10 years, and have recently been in and out of hospital. I’m convinced my symptoms are caused by grief and anxiety. I haven’t felt well enough to go out for about 2 weeks, but also feeling the loneliness unbearable.
Anne
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I know. I am depressed as well as anxious and I can’t seem to fix it x
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Hi Anne, I have vertigo which I think had been made worse with grief and anxiety. But the osteoarthritis in my knees have definitely got worse in the last year, and now I have a gynecology appointment, it’s just one thing after another.
I think what makes it all worse you have no one to share your worries and anxiety with. My children are aware but it’s not the same as your partner. When you need a good cry there is only one shoulder and only one hug that will do, and they are not here anymore. It’s hard
Debbie X
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That’s what I miss the most. No matter how silly my worry I could tell my husband and he would always give me a hug and make me feel safe and loved. I haven’t had a hug since he passed away. Xx
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Hi @Debbie57 yes I can relate to this. Only 12 weeks since my husband passed and I am suffering dreadful anxiety, night sweats, high blood pressure, pain everywhere and vision issues. My GP says it’s part grief and part coming down from the years of caring for Mike during his illness. Having to be hyper vigilant for so long has a detrimental effect on the nerves so I’m told.
The loneliness makes it worse I think, stress of being alone, scared & coping with everything is exhausting.
I empathise with everyone going through this process
Jen x
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I agree with you all, I don’t have any new symptoms but I feel those ailments have got worse, in the main it’s my Osteoarthritis which I have in most joints from my neck going down to my ankles, a lot more stiffness and pain with now a lot of swelling in my fingers which is now under investigation, I’ve had my wedding ring enlarged twice but due to the pattern on it I can’t have it done again :’( so I now wear my husbands ring which at the moment fits perfectly, I’m also now waiting for an appointment for the Vascular team which is my main worry now, I’ve got to the point of thinking about the plans I have made for my home & garden, should I bother spending all the money doing them, if it gets done how much time am I going to have to enjoy them, should I just leave it and safe the money for my children & grandchildren, would it be a waste? telling my children what I want doing with my ashes, telling them who gets what from my jewellery…they tell me to stop as I’m not going anywhere for a long while yet…I’m not so sure.
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I’m struggling. I don’t know what Tod do. is anyone taking Sertraline and if so do you find they work. Does anyone get horrible side effects x
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No I’m not on those, what are they for?
Yes. I looked after my declining parents for 5 years, alone. Physical and mental disabilities. I started looking after them in my mid 50’s, by the time they both passed I was under sixty, but looked 70. I was told on a lot of occasions how old I looked. People are cruel.
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I was prescribed sertraline, they didn’t work for me.
Definitely my health has declined. Looking after and losing my parents. I have had high blood pressure, ear infections, hearing loss, skin rashes, Anxiety.
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I looked after both my parents and they died three and eight years ago. My husband then became I’ll and died last year. Since then I have aged. You are right people can be cruel. At least I can feel I have done my best for my family. I miss my husband and life is very different. Not the life I wanted. X
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Hi Nel, Sertraline has been great for me but if you are not feeling any better after 4-6 weeks you need to tell your clinician. They may tweak the dose, change the type completely or combine it with another drug. Hope you feel the benefit of it soon. Xx
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Thank you Anne x
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Sertraline has been great for me as well. I only needed a low dose, to begin with it was too high and I had side effects but fine with lower dose. Actually feel like myself for the first time in months. Has helped me enormously and would recommend giving it a go x
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I feel the same l lost my husband 20!June 22
I don’t sleep now l saw how he suffered after his heart attack and l
Miss like hell.I
Since his death l pilled weight on , l am constantly tired feeling run down.
Have to work which helps me mentally but physically l am nackered
Sorry for moaning
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I don’t have Sertraline but I am on Ampitripoline (don’t think I’ve spelt that correctly)
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