Hi all, im not sure if im going through a normal phase but i lost my dad a week before xmas to COPD and pnemonia,he was put on end of life 2 days before he passed away. I have been busy dealing with my parents finances,as my dad paid minority of bills,and my mum has vascular dementia and severe heart failure,she is housebound,bed to chair. My sister is her live in carer. Me and her dont get on as theres been issues with her behaviour previously,which has made it hard for family to visit my poor mum now,and even when my dad was there too. I am feeling lost, numb,not eatingg alot,cant sleep properly. I handled the funeral,and am writing a complaint concerning the hospital stay my dad had. I feel im not able to grieve, as i see so many people express here and others. I suffer with mental health problems,and i feel i cant concentrate on anything, i miss my dad so much. I was always there for him when he was struggling with seeing my mums suffering with her dementia, getting angry and agitated,shouting,swearing, crying, all emotions. He was left to deal with my mum as my sister made my mum worse when she got like it, and my dad would be calm and just be there with her. My dad always said he didnt want my sister left with my mum,as she was spiteful and shouts and swears at my mum. At the end my dad stopped going out anywhere as he didnt want to leave my mum. I feel i have let him down because i cant visit alot, due to the confrontation i get from my sister. I just dont know what im meant to do, i am going day by day with all this mixed emotion and hurt.
Hello @Kimmy69,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you might want to read this resource we have written:
Hopefully you will find it comforting to know that how you’re feeling isn’t unusual, and you are not alone.
Take care and keep reaching out 
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